A common enough conversation in my life is about phone sex. What it is, what it can be and why men call phone sex lines. Granted there are as many reasons as there are men, like many things in our lives. Let’s look at phone sex, some of the reasons, and have a bit of fun!
Phone Sex
It was reported* the first obscene phone call occurred sometime in 1877 after the first telephone exchange opened in Boston.
It was scandalous fo
Fun look at why men call phone sex lines
r the times, and there were protests about the evil ‘ghost voice’ machine and how we will one day rue it’s implementation! The call, in actuality was just some heavy breathing , and a comment about not wearing a petticoat being so hot!
But would that be the first phone sex call?
No, that came a few weeks later when the same caller interrupted Jason McChalisster’s weekly self love session. Answering the phone hearing heavy breathing, he was confused. When the caller so erotically described: a woman only wearing a dress and NO petticoats, well it was just to much for him and he squirted all over himself! There my friends , the first “phone sex” call.
Why Phone Sex
Self love, requires the brain for it to “work”, for you to have an orgasm. If you are like most your brain loves novelty. Considering the amount of masturbation males traditionally do, running out of novelty is a real problem. Magazines (do they still exist?) work well, even vids and clips on the internet. Many are satisfied with these mediums. But many want and need more. A warm voice, sexy intelligent conversation. Erotic naughty thoughts and sharing of fantasies is that next step! I can’t tell you how many times someone told me their fantasy. Then we do a role play or other session time fun and they end up saying “Wow, I never thought of that before, that was great!”
It is so erotic what two naughty minds can come up with!
Girlfriend Phone Sex
There too are those calls where masturbation and orgasm are not involved in the call. Women are mysterious creatures to most men, and getting up close and personal with them is a challenge. Trying desperately to find out what makes them tick, they haven’t been able to. Perhaps they are shy, or have failed miserably before. You call because it’s easier to talk with me, anonymously on the phone. Tell me what your story, and ask for my help understanding and meeting women!
Perhaps someone friendly to say hello to at the end of a long day. Flirting and teasing you until one day you gather the courage and tell me you are ready for that next step. Ready for me to help you, to teach you how to make love to a woman. How to put your own male, selfish desires to the side and really please a woman.
Kinky Phone Sex
Of course there’s the kink factor. You are not going to be confessing to your girlfriend that you think about sucking cock.
Most folks dinner conversation is not going to be about how the Giantess fantasy is in your top five of all time masturbation fantasies.
Your family will not understand your desires to submit and be submissive to a dominate woman. Wanting to feel owned, and controlled.
I know you, you want to whisper in my ear how sissy girlie you feel in your pink lace panties. That , my friends will probably never be heard on he golf course, in between cigars and snuffs of scotch. Am I right or am I right? Yep, there are some things, some discussions, some activities which are best left for your friendly Phone Mistress.
That’s why I’m here.
*I am totally making this up.
Indeed! It is amazing to confess and play with hidden fetishes, desires and fantasies ! It is always incredibly erotic to hear my Mistresses and your voice urging on my naughty play!…. So, yeah for phone sex!!!!
Princess, you are so delightfully submissive! Your Mistress has done great work with you! 😉
I’m not very good in social situations unless I’ve consumed alcohol. When I have not consumed alcohol, I almost never fit in. This is because my races in thousands of different directions. I’m constantly thinking about things that are not the present situation. People can see that in me and it weirds them out, and it is hard for me to socialize with people when my mind is thinking about weird things like the evolution of the Web-Toed Salamanders or the speciation of Wandering Gartersnakes or better ways to detect when a user has turned off close captions on web based media.
When I drink, the alcohol calms my mind down and I can fit in better, but I don’t want to drink a lot because it slows my thinking when I do need to think and I don’t want to become dependent upon alcohol. Yet when I don’t fit in, I can feel that I’m not fitting in, and I don’t like it. So I avoid the places where people often meet other people.
There are other things that calm my mind down. Sometimes music does, sometimes art does – especially impressionist like Monet – hiking in nature does – but the social places where people are, my mind gets too busy.
The company of some women also calms my mind. But without being able to be at places with people, it’s not easy to find women to calm my mind. With phonesex, I can find a women to help calm my mind without needing to go on the hunt in places I’m not comfortable being at, and the calming effect can last long after the call.
That’s not the only reason I call, but its a much better way to calm my over-active mind than with alcohol, I don’t have to risk becoming dependent upon alcohol. And phonesex gives me the bond with people of the opposite sex that yes, I need.
Alice, thank you for your comments! Always insightful, and reflective. Thank you!
Phone sex is awesome!!! I’ve been doing this on again off again for over 20 years. I’ve been able to confess my fetishes/secrets to the mistresses on wanting to be dressed/turned and kept as a girl and they have forfilled this. I even have collection of bras/panties/leggings/yoga pants/women’s tops/dresses/lipsticks/perfumes/lotions/purses/slips/heels/ankle/knee high boots. I love dressing up as the clothes/makeup is so much fun and sooo soft against my girlish waxed skin. I wish I was born a girl instead of guy. You right I’m not going to bring this up to family/co workers as they are wrapped up in work/pro sports,etc. they hate how women have control & power. Coming out of closet to my masseuse about my dressing was best thing I ever did as she accepted this and measured/fitted me in bra had me try on my dresses for her. She’s married but said not to worry about her husband. After every massage I smell like cherry blossom with the lotions/perfunes/mist she puts on me.
I do need to call you on advice on how I can put my selfish desires aside for women. Though I did get chewed out by one of my friends as we went out on date and all I talked about was her friend who I have hots for and she said she’s had this kept inside for 2 months and said she felt bad/kicked aside to curb when all I did was talk about her friend. I apologized and luckily she accepted. Her voice was cracking ready to cry and I told her I felt awful for doing this and I gave her a hug. I did say to one of her friends that I’d do whatever her & her friend wanted without protest/raising my voice and she overheard that and said she’s looking for boyfriend like this. I sense she wants to take control of guts saying this and I want her to do just that if she’s interested in being in female lead relationship with her. Also she talked about nail polishes to me saying she always wore it 8th grade through high school and started wearing it again. It caught me off guard that she brought this up to me. I feel she wants to take friendship to relationship as she said she wants to know more about me. There’s only one little matter and that I like to wear women’s clothes in which she doesn’t know. She was honest with me and I feel I need to be with her.
Thankyou for your honesty Alice Wonder.It is refreshingly to have someone reveal real human feelings.I will offer advice although I am not a trained professional. Become self actualised and you will never need a drop of alcohol again.There is no need to feel awkward in a social situation.I do not know you but from what you do on this site you seem like a very worthy human being.So beleive you can conquer this.There’s a saying you can or you can’t.It’s up to each of us.Myself personally do not smoke ,do drugs or drink alcohol.This leads to self actualisation.Now listening is a skill that can’t be overstated.You will have a friend list so long if you can a develop this skill.Life is about relationships and the simple pleasures that come with it.And it must be active listening.Listen to the message .We are all on an island to a degree.But we all need social interaction.The mistresses although great at what they do all face the same obstacles in life.They too need to be self actualised.No one has all the answers.There are things we do not see.The Mistresses,such as Erika,Constance, Meredith,Alexis etc are truly gifted and help far more from only a sexual fulfillment angle.Mistress Emma Jane has helped me immeasurable understand so much more about myself as of course have the others I also mentioned.Mistress Emma Jane is so much more than sexual entertainment.Her understanding of a the human condition is awesome.Life is a short journey.The clock is ticking.The same people you feel awkward around have insecurities just like you.Understand you will not connect with everyone.Understand most people do not get it and live in their own little world.You must accept that relationships and life are not perfect.Enjoy the simple pleasures in life just like Mistress Erika tells us in her blogs.So lookup self actualization and overcome your fears.You deserve it.Thank-you for your honesty.Thank-you Mistress Erika.Your enthusiasm, cheerfulness ,energy,work ethic is such a plus for the greatest phone entertainment on the planet.
Giggi,
Very insightful and thank you for your comments. Your use of self actualization is interesting, and informative. Loving to play with concepts as this and playing devils advocate, who here is to determine when and if someone is fully self actualized? I would assume only that person, right? After all, if am gregarious and enjoy being with groups of people I may not feel “self actualized” without their existence as part of my life.
But If that person feels happy and fulfilled and wants for nothing, but still doesn’t enjoy the company of multiple humans (aka gathering or party) who is to say that they are not self actualized? Humm? Now, that just turned things on their heads! 😉
Thankyou Mistress Erika.I fully understand.You must not become eccentric and expect others to live like you.What bothers me is life is short.The clock is ticking.Why do people have to be insecure and unhappy.Also to get along one must get along.That does involve compromise at times .That means to me that some of my inner feelings and desires remain with me not really in the closet.I accept them fully as that is part of me and can certainly enjoy without everybody knowing.Of course Mistress Erika you have your simple pleasures you embrace as your blog’s and the empire posts indicate.You love life and enjoy it.That is great.Along the way you are including and helping other people.So glad I have had opportunity to know you.Life to me is about simple pleasures and relationships.Why complicate it.Of course for me adoring,embracing,interacting with the opposite sex has always brought me a sense of fulfillment and joy.When it gets to a deeper and more intimate level it enhances it.
lovely, wonderfully put.
Great post, pete. Take it slow, get to know her a bit more and I’d love to help you with your selfish male “urges” 😉
That’s what my masseuse told me. She said I’ve been single for long time that I need to do soul searching. She said to keep my dressing to myself until time is right then bring it up at future time. she is same age as me and other girl is 15 years younger. I do want both to take lead in relationship. The one same age I feel wants to take this to relationship as she opened up and was honest with me. I feel I owe it to her to be honest with her. I do want to have girlfriend with being in female lead relationship and I hope she wants to do this. If so I’ll be much happier if one/both take charge of me.
It is like therapy. If you have an understanding mistress who is gentle and can coax the truth out or if you hsve someone firm who demands it. You cannot admit even to a therapist that you feel you have a tiny little unit and you just feel better in panties. It’s too humiliating to say in person.
Michael,
I agree! Perhaps therapists should have their first few sessions on the phone! Easier to be vulnerable when you are anonymous. I get it.
But look how far you’ve come! You just confessed your humiliating secret, right here! But “here” is better than most places. “here” all are welcome, all are valued and all of your secrets are safe with me!”
You are right. Very humiliating. You want someone to know but it’s scary and gives her power if she knows.
Such a wonderful blog post about phone sex! It makes so proud and happy to be a part of so many people’s lives for so many different and fun reasons! There are really as many reasons to call someone to talk about anything and everything under the sun, as there are people under the sun! It’s fun and we’re open-minded and non-judge-y! What could be better?