The Sexual Alpha Male Who Discovered He Didn’t Have It All Figured Out
He had always considered himself a sexual alpha male. He was confident. Assertive. Independent. He was the guy who walked into a room as if he belonged there, made decisions without hesitation, and rarely allowed anyone else to tell him what to do. All he had to do was charm the next unsuspecting female, and she would be his latest conquest.
At least, that was the story he told himself. But like most humans, when one exaggerates a behavior and insists their Alpha-presenting status is solid. It’s typically to cover up something completely, the opposite.
Then He Contacted A Femdom: Me
His reason for reaching out wasn’t exactly what most people might think. He had been wrestling privately with a sexual dilemma; he hadn’t felt comfortable asking anyone about his desire to suck a cock. Again.
You didn’t misread, and I didn’t mistype. I did use the word again. You see, our Sexual Alpha had a cock in his mouth before. Chalking it up to exploration, curiosity, and lack of a female partner. The entire sorrid connection was short-lived, and he then chartered a course for his life to include all things manly.
After a successful professional life, being a serial philanderer, that life, too, had run its course. The women wanted more, and he wasn’t prepared to give them more. I suspect something else significant in his life had occurred shortly before he contacted me, as often the case. Sometimes grief or a stressful situation flips that switch from an occasional thought to a viable direction.
But to date, he’s been mum about it, and it really is just an interesting aside. Maybe he reads this; he’ll tell me one way or another, and I’ll do a follow-up post. For the rest of this post, we’ll refer to him as Sub-R.
Sexual Alpha Male and His Cock Sucking Proposal
It wasn’t that he suddenly had everything figured out. Quite the opposite. He was curious, nervous, and more than a little embarrassed by the thoughts he’d been having. He wanted to know if I could help him overcome some roadblocks to his desires. Desires to suck cock. Knowing I’ve gotten more than a few cock curious fella’s on the dong, I enthusiastically jumped on the opportunity!
You see, where does one go for help like this? Your traditional therapist? Of course, you can’t go to your friends! Online forums? But he wanted someone experienced enough to help him explore and work through those roadblocks and “get him sucking cock.” In his mind, all he needed was to be really, really horny and desperate that he had “no choice” but to give in to his desires.
His First Conversation With A Femdom
I’m sure it didn’t go the way he expected. I didn’t immediately start ordering him around. Like any good researcher, I had to get to know my subject. So I asked questions. Who was he in the world? I had to know the basics to flesh out a plan. We spoke for about 30 minutes, and with his boundaries, we mutually decided he would be on an email training program,
Some of what we covered in that session was. What makes you curious? What is the worst-case scenario for you? I’m sure there is no surprise to find out that I asked about his sexual habits, how often he masturbates. What type of porn does he watch, you know: All the ‘good stuff’. I heard a bit about who he is, his history, and where he wanted to go, but needed a “coach” , which was his inference. I stepped back from the Femdom and became that “Mad scientist” twisting knobs, pushing buttons. Evaluating its efficacy and fine-tuning.
Sexual Alpha Male and Email Training
I have to say Sub-R was swift to identify the modalities I was using; it really is basic operant conditioning principles. He seemed intrigued, even bordering on doubtful, but leaned in! I’m very impressed and proud of him for what he did. After all, to develop a connection ( long distance) and change someone’s life is fun and challenging. Even more challenging in “email,” where there’s little of my voice to seduce, entrance, and encourage or even control someone like sub-R.
It’s during this time that we had a little exchange about my theory that all men are submissive; it’s just a matter of degree. Men evolved to always be ready to have sex; women not so much! So men had to court (aka please) the female to gain access to what he wants, sex. It’s not an uncommon phenomenon if we look around our world. He was quick to explain how that’s a mask, and how really clever men and (the inference) “alpha men” move through the world.
Sexual Alpha Male Asserts His Desire
He also insisted this was a kinky desire solely for his own pleasure. He wouldn’t be vulnerable and admit he liked to please. If I’m remembering correctly, the statement was “I wouldn’t care for his pleasure; this is all for me” or some permutation. A bit of a strong response IMO, when I ventured down a line of questioning that suggested submitting to cock, might get him where he wants to go.
Step By Step, This Sexual Alpha Male Was Transformed
From controlling his cock, and orgasms to controlling his behavior in his free time. We moved step by step towards our goal. There were A lot of heart-to-heart discussions about his life and desires. I controlled what porn he was allowed to watch, when, and any approved activities. Mind you, this was a slow process; I didn’t want to scare the poor dear off. You guys are skittish at times, and “handle with caution” is sometimes in order!
There’s more to this story, and I’ll tell you if you are interested. Sound off below, hit me up on Discord, or drop me an email!
It’s Not A Matter of IF It’s Only a Matter of WHEN
He is now very excited to be coerced into cocksucking, even cuckolding and other kinky thoughts and desires, including submission, have bubbled to the surface! It’s been a good dozen months since we started, but we are so close to the finish line, I’m sure HE can “taste it”.
Sub-R took a break for a few months, as life got in the way, and resumed his training this past summer. I’m told at this sitting he has a date to suck a friend’s cock. Stay tuned for the next installment of this newly found submissive cocksucker, and taste my true power as a Femdom. Remember, darlings. When you engage with me to reach a goal, it becomes OUR goal. I always achieve MY goals, and it’s not a matter of IF you will lean into YOUR kink, it’s only a matter of WHEN.
Until We Chat,
hmmmm sounds about right
LOL Oh Kristi, I can hear you say THAT ! Thanks for stopping by and supporting me!
Know when to say when!!!
Sage advice, Gigi, sage advice đ¤
Very interesting reading Goddess Erika. đ§ââď¸đ§ââď¸đ§ââď¸ Though i don’t know if it is true that every man is submissive to a degree. look at me for example. I am not submissive.
To put this in the equine vernacular Mistress Erika, in your case, âYou can lead a man to water, and you CAN make him drink!â
Those powers of persuasion you possessâŚthe mind races!
Thank you peg! â¤ď¸I love your clever quips and all of your support over the years!
And by the by, meant to say what a wonderfully written blog post Mistress Erika!â¤ď¸.
Thanks , sugar! đđ
If youâre open to sexual fluidity and have some fantasy kinks that youâd like to explore, then this lady has the ability and skills to turn those into your new realities and at the same time to create an appetite for sexual preference changes that is almost intoxicating, Unbelievably good at what she can do with your hidden sexual desires.
Well, well, well, isn’t he the man of the hour?
Sub R himself. I’ll be using your delightful comments in a promotion.
Thank you , sexy. Oh and BTW I left that out of the blog, but you, my friend are a hot pc of man meat!
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Mistress Erika, you have to do a follow-up! But yes, I do not doubt that, under your skilled guidance, you have helped Sub-R become what he has longed to be for so long.
Thank you Ms Bianca! What a delight to have you visit! What a great honor that the Mistress Of The Month Ms Bianca visted me! I hope you are enjoying your reign and speaking of which..
I have enjoyed calls with you, so some naughty out there has to treat us to a two Mistress call so we can have MORE FUN! đđ
Ms Erika,
I surrendered to it didn’t I? You somehow knew straight away what I wanted.
curtsey and twirlllll
LOL Oh twirl girl, YES YOU DID!
but I was never a alpha male Ms Erika. Thank you for putting me in my rightful place
LOL so true twirl girl
Why am I not shocked that you took a deeper look to see what was going on in his head, what things were contributing to his desires, and maybe more importantly his desire to explore? Oh, I know why, because I’ve seen you do it first hand.
One of the things I admire most about you, is that you don’t go in with an agenda. You probe, you consider, you test what you learn. There are times you suggest, encourage, maybe even push in a direction and get real resistance. In those cases you note it, and try something else. Maybe revisiting from another angle.
Being something for you to explore is worth exploring, it can be embarrassing, it is enlightening, always sexy, and very enjoyable.
Well Hello WS, delightful comment! Everything you say is true! I don’t have a cookie-cutter step-by-step process! Humans are endlessly fascinating (and frustrating!) I’m glad my casual interest in behavior
and the males of our species is beneficial to more folks than myself!
Thank you, again, Naughty Guy!
I suspect it is something slightly more than casual.
Hey WS! How’s that sexy ass of yours doing? Your suspicions would be right.
OMG you are SO powerful, Head Mistress Erika. I was transfixed while reading this because I too am ensnared in your web.
If you want it, I give it. After a decade of your therapy, I can say this to all comers with 100% certainty.
And now, of course, I can hear your satisfied laughter as you spy the wet spot in my trousersâŚ
âDoes cock turn you on too, tommi?â
LOL I know the answer, yes little tomi boy who masquerades as a heterosexual, is really faggy for cock! LOL
See, folks, you can have it either way. Want conditioning to a new behavior, firm guiding hand ? You got it
If you are a f-kin sexual loser like Tommikins, Q chat line Peewee, then I’ll give you a HUGE SCOOP OF
FUCK OFF as I do with tommy! Shut up slut, I own you, and anyway YOU KNOW – it’s good for you, you’ll be thanking me later when you are humping my leg.
so true and amazing how Mistress Erika dominates and transforms alpha males. as one of the previous posts she is intoxicating and knows how to make men submit. in my case she took my no for a ruined orgasm and reversed it so much that I have her ruining all my orgasms. what a femdom !!
This comment made my day, I do remember talking to you about Ruined, and you were like “er em, IDK”
LOOK at you now more than halfway through your year of RUINED!
glad I made your day. I considered myself a Alpha male until you came along. You tamed me (as you call me pet) and am i glad you did ! giving you ownership of my cock / balls and orgasms came naturally with time. I slowly but surely figured that submission to you gets me to the space which is real true pleasure. you made me understand what real cock control means – not a quick release for my pleasure but giving you the control to make me edge, orgasm and ruin as you please. I have been ruining orgasms for 6 months now, is this extreme cock control ?? I believe its how you have transformed me from an alpha by working on a kink that makes me so submissive to you. it is kinda personally tailored for me when u figured edging is my desire. the way you make me edge cannot be explained! you are one hell of a femdom. thank you for taming me.
Thank you pet you are doing amazing!
The first time I read this blog post, I was entranced and rushed to comment, ever wanting to please my Head Mistress Erika.
This time I slowed down and read all of the other comments. What fantastic company all of you are! I am honored to count myself among you as one of Head Mistress Erikaâs pets.
How mind blowing would it be if Head Mistress Erika arranged for all of us to meet in person at a large hotel suite, get changed into something appropriate, and then kneel together to do a conference call with her.
I bet weâd all be sucking a cock that dayâŚ
Oh Thomas, this is delightful! I love this idea!
My mouth is dry and my ears are red at the thought of it.
You could so easily edge me into it and that scares me.
Planning the meetup including a trip to the salon for a Brazilian and going to the adult sex shop with a shopping list to share with the sales lady, if sheâs consensual, and ordering nylons online would have me visibly trembling.
I wonder what they would make of my nervous disposition when I check in at the hotel.
Iâll tell them that Iâm meeting a very special lady for the first time and sheâs probably out of my league but I wouldnât forgive myself if I at least didnât try.
I hope theyâll believe meâŚunless a lady calls the hotel asking for me and says that Iâm going on my first gay date and she wants to reassure me that everything will be okayâŚ
Every person with a vagina is out of your league!
I’d give anything (well, a lot) to be kneeling there with you, peewee!
Good to know… tea bag. đđ
This what you did to me when we first met!!! Being put in your bra/panties/wig/makeup/lipstick/
dresses/heels and perfume as your boy turned into your girlfriend as I tried to say no and resist you! Now that youâve added Ms Bianca and Ms Olivia in my feminization I canât ever go back to being a guy anymore
yes yes and YES!
You know, I never would have believed that my sexual desires could be transformed by another person and that I would feel guiltless about pursuing my off-road erotic passions. But itâs happened. Slowly, seamlessly and continually, until my new normal sexual desires feel undeniable, seductively enticing and completely comfortable. And this new feeling of cis sexual freedom stays, it doesnât dilute over time.
I’m delighted to hear that from you! it’s my first day back today, and if you see the time of this post you know I’m on tha OT train! LOL
Send me a message on discord, catch me up!