Are you curious about The secret of my ultimate power as a Femdom? Do you think my ultimate power is how I wield it over my submissives? A common question I receive is how I feel about my power over my submissives. Or what elements make me feel my power, or what is one that brings me the most pleasure and satisfaction? The ultimate power I receive as a Femdom may not be what you think! Let’s dive, shall we? Just in the shallow end, no floaties needed!
Submission Is Your Gift To Me
If anyone knows me at all, they know that when you submit to me, I consider it a gift. Your gift of submission is recognized, celebrated, and never taken for granted. I know you can submit to anyone, so it’s spectacular when you decide to allow me to dominate you! If our connection continues and deepens, perhaps you’ll be a treasured pet? Is that my ultimate power? To collect as many obedient pets for my stable as I am able?
As you may realize, there are many ways to submit to me. From traditional BDSM sensation or pain play, orgasm control, coerced bi, or fem. The list is endless. I don’t see one or the other type of play as having any greater impact on my power than the other. Ergo, my ultimate power as a femdom, for me isn’t the type of play. It’s something else.
Is The Ultimate Power As A Femdom In Honorifics
Femdoms and Dominates often have honorifics (titles) attached to their name. Master, Sir are male-focused common honorifics. For Femdoms, it’s common to hear Mistress, Goddess, or Queen. Princess is sometimes used, but it doesn’t fit my personality, so it’s rarely used concerning me.
It’s a simple use of a term that denotes the established power dynamic between two people. Often, people will default to Mistress, or ask how I prefer to be addressed. You can call me Mistress, Mistress Erika, Ms, and if the spirit compels them, Goddess or Queen.
I enjoy giving the submissive choices, and in particular, the option to use Goddess or Queen when they feel compelled to use them. I find it hot AF when I inspire those utterances of “Oh My Goddess!” It denotes your headspace and thrills me to hear you move from Mistress, to “Oh my Goddess” when you feel it! Honorifics play a certain role in our relationship and power dynamic. However, this isn’t my ultimate power as a Femdom, either. It’s much deeper!
Enjoying The Thrill and Roller Coaster Of Submission
Regardless of the play or scene, a submissive can expect a bit of a rollercoaster experience, starting of slow or sensual, ramping up the intensity a tad, before backing down. Each spike of intensity is even more intense than the last. Swirling until my goals have been achieved. I am leaving you spent, whatever that may mean to you, and both of us happy.
I do enjoy pushing your buttons, pulling those sexy and sometimes slutty puppet strings. I love being at the controls, and yes, it’s very powerful to control your biological directive but it’s not the ultimate, not yet.
My Ultimate Power As A Femdom
Is the mark I leave on your existence!
What? All that built up for a simple phrase?!?! Ok, I’ll extrapolate!
Not always, but often enough, I engage with someone and their desires, kink, or fetish, and I write an indelible mark on their existence. Like the senior gentleman who has always had cock sucking desires, and did so once very inebriated and many years ago. I assume that he heard the march of time in his ears every day, and he felt his ultimate dream would never come true. To soberlly admit his desires, and to suck a cock sober! But first, we had to sift through years of homophobia that he had been surrounded by most of his life.
I’m happy and proud to say he has achieved our goals of cocksucking! He can’t thank me enough, even months after his first sober sucking of cock, he’ll randomly say “Erika how did you do that, Erika can you believe I DID THAT”, yes he’s worked with other Mistresses in the industry before, but something about us “clicked”. Zero shade on anyone, but an example of sometimes people click. Building his trust, talking about my views about his desires, compared to mainstream everyday Jack? How does he process his Tutti Frutti desires in a vanilla ice cream world? Best part? He no longer feels that deep-seated guilt.
More Examples Of That Mark
Femmary comes to mind, she came to me for impact play and beating the boy out of him, admonishing him that he’s not a man, never was, nor will be! Today, after an off-the-cuff comment/assessment during aftercare, things flipped for Mary. You can listen to her words about our connection here: Becoming Mary.
The guy who tried forever to achieve a prostate orgasm, and with my help and instructions, exploded in prostate joy in our first session! Now we are talking about permanent chastity, and enjoy the milking or orgasms as I see fit.
I’m also thinking of the “if I’m paying I’m spraying” guy, who is now a treasured pet, is routinely denied, caged tormented and ruined, he is and is so much more well rounded in being a slut in many arenas than when we first connected.
Knowing you will never be the same after meeting me, how I enriched your life. Or changed you forever, in one way or another, you’ll carry me throughout your journey! This is my ultimate power!
I know some of my pets will see themselves in the above, and others might be sad not to see themselves at all. You’ll forgive me. I could write a book about the multitude of people whom I have crossed paths with. There just isn’t room in this blog! It’s already close to a thousand words and “THEY” say don’t be too long-winded (too late cupcakes! LOL). So, one little task and I’ll let you go.
Now It’s Your Turn
Tell me about the Woman (yes, it can be ME! LOL) who wrote an indelible mark on your existence that enhanced you life’s experiences? Don’t get too XXX and keep it Pg13 or R rated, otherwise I’ll have to edit your comments to comply. You see, Mistress gets what she wants, one way or another! YOU WILL OBEY! (laughs)
Until We Chat
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Good afternoon mistress. Another great post. I hope you know that you have affected my life in the most profound way. You’ve taken me on journeys that I never thought I would ever have. I was a reluctant cum eater until we met. With your guidance, and the way you made me feel that I was the only person in the world to you made my path to eating my cum easy. You were always my Queen. But I never had the ability to express it to you, maybe just to stoic. The best I could do was address you as My Mistress, I know very wrong of me for I could never possibly possess you. You will always be a part of my heart and soul. I thank you for all that you’ve done for me.
Bob!
Wow, your words blow me away! Thank you for taking the time to express yourself! You are a fantastic submissive, and I’m so glad the universe aligned for us to meet!
Being thought of as your Mistress is an honor, thank you!
You certainly have ultimate power as a Femdom…I have loved being loaned to controlled and disciplined by you… often for the mistake I was thinking I was worthy to gaze that your heavenly image… I look forward to being dressed as a sissy simping and serving you again!
Hi dickless, thanks for stopping by! Talking about the ultimate power, Ms Constance has shrunk that nub from “small” to penny size, that’s freaking POWER!
as it should be!
My pulse is racing and I can hear you laughing at the expression on my face right now.
As you know all too well, a number of women have left indelible marks on me but there are two ladies who truly finished me off.
My ex emasculated me with small penis humiliation for nearly 20 years and figuratively stripped me down to panties and put me in a cage of self-conscious inferiority that I will never escape. She utterly destroyed my ability to engage in sexual intercourse and permanently shrank my already small penis.
You moved my cage in front of a two way mirror on the outside of a shed at the LDW club and welded the lock shut. I’ll never forget being introduced to you in 2018. I still get nervous with arousal when I think of you, and that has me leaking in less than a minute.
You have made an indelible mark on me, Head Mistress Erika, and I am addicted to the way that you humiliate me and keep me beaten down.
What lovely words from a beta bitch, I adore your “simp-ness” peewee!
And I love the way that you can make me feel like everyone is reading this with just a simple sentence, as I imagine your knowing smirk at your power over me.
There’s a wet spot on my pants now…
pants ? Pants? WTF are YOU doing in pants, sluts like you should be panties, humm little one 😀
Yes, Head Mistress Erika.
I’m sorry, Head Mistress Erika.
Sorry sorry sorry , sad sack subbie and your looks are a lie!
Wow Goddess Erika. I was wondering if every second i spend in silence and have nothing happening in my session helps contribute to your power as a Femdom. 🧎♂️🧎♂️ I just feel that my dark room experience is the ultimate i power exchange for me even though you aren’t in my presence during a session.
I totally agree! You may NOT be a lot of things, intelligent isn’t part of it. That’s what brings me MORE power, humm?
I´ve always been submissive, don´t think there was a certain woman or happening that made me into who I am… But I specifically remember one day many years ago that made me realize it even more: When this woman asked me to carry her luggage up a long flight of stairs at the train station when the elevators wasn´t working… (she was very sexy to begin with.) I naturally obliged and as I was struggling a bit to carry her too big suitcases, she just walked ahead of me speaking on her phone like I wasn´t even there and wiggling her ass, probably just to tease me since she knew where I´d be looking…! :O Only looking back to smile over her shoulder once, asking me if it was heavy with a giggle… And continued doing the same once we reached the top of the stairs too and just kept walking ahead of me speaking on her phone, letting me take care of her luggage… I felt like her servant… And I loved it!
I´ve always wished it would happen again, always offering women to carry their bags etc… But I´ve not even come close to that amazing incident. It was like an IRL Femdom moment. 🙂
The combination of her wiggling her butt while just walking ahead of me and speaking on her phone, completely ignoring me like I didn´t even exist while letting me take care of her luggage was an incredible turn on for me… I loved the fact that she was completely hands free and didn´t carry a thing herself! Her comfort was all that mattered. I think she heard me gasp of exhaustion and excitement all in one… It was almost as if she could sense that I would love that kind of treatment… And that she got a boost herself out of doing it just to tease me and see my reaction, knowing I would stare at her ass the entire time and just think about how sexy she was while she was using me as a porter…! Especially when she looked back over her shoulder with a smile to ask me if it was heavy, only to giggle and say “I bet!” and just continued to walk and wiggle her butt! :O I honestly don´t think I´ve ever been so excited… I could have been her personal servant who did anything she wanted me to.
Like I said, I´ve always wished it would happen again, but I´ve not even come close… No one has let me carry her bags while just ignoring me like that. But I´ve always been on the lookout for those subtle Femdom gestures IRL… A couple where the man carries all the bags etc… Or anything similar!
slave J!
I have no idea how I missed these entries. Oh wait, I do know, I’ve been a very busy Mistress as of late! OMG! LOL
Love your comments!
Dear Ms Erika, Is the second picture in this blog (the one with a lady in a black bra and black underpants with her back to the camera) a picture of you? A very nice picture!
Hello Wimpy Wet Knickers! Glad you enjoyed the post and the sexy picture!
Dear Ms Erika, Thank you for the speedy reply. Are you the lady in that picture?
Wow that question is very important question for you, you asked twice! Now, IMO that is MORE interesting than any answer I can give, I have to know, why is it so important to you , to know?
You know what a tease I am!
So , here’s what I want you to do:
What if I said YES: what difference does that make to you?
What if I said NO: it’s a model I picked , how does that ultimately impact your existence in the world?
Well, Ms Erika, I have told you in the past that I am a slave/submissive of Ms Hunter (who is ably assisted by Ms Olivia). They both know of my fascination/fetish for ladies who wear black underpants. To teach me some self-control, they have put me under orders not to look at any pictures of LDW ladies wearing black underpants. And so, if that is a picture of you, I might be in big trouble!
That is an amazing confession, for all to see. Ms Hunter and Olivia should be proud of you!
I love how the ladies, have given you that directive, but I think perhaps I should speak with the both of them
perhaps it should include any woman in black panties, including pictures of me (or any Mistress) in black panties… seems to be a bit of a loop hole for you Sir Wimpy Wet Knickers! 😁🤭😘
I remember my first session with Mistress. You instructed me to stroke Your cock. After a few too many strokes I could not stop the sudden gush of semen. After I explained what had happen Your only response was “Eat it, eat every drop.” Without hesitation I licked my hand clean of the cum. As soon as I was finished licking and slurping, Mistress gave me the most brutal tongue-lashing I had ever gotten.
I have had countless sessions with Mistresses at LDW before and never had to eat cum. When Mistress Erika insisted I do this, it was absolutely an indelible mark on my existence. It also established a baseline as to how swift and severe the consequences are for inappropriate behavior.
Mistress Erika maintains ultimate power over my existence and will as long as She desires.
I see your day of worship went well, pet. I’m thrilled you learned your lesson, as distasteful as it may have been.
There are always consequences for lack of obedience, intended or not. Humm?
I just read this blog post again and have to comment again.
Your mind is incredible. The way that you have methodically probed and dismantled my sexual history, in a manner approaching a patient/therapist relationship, for the past 8-1/2 years has left me utterly powerless.
I can have a fleeting thought about you and then I have to focus very hard to keep my mind from wandering and my femcock from leaking. And that triggers the thought of you laughing at my feeble attempt to not be the dickless wimp cocksucker that you know I truly am.
It’s a vicious and unrelenting circle of failing for Head Mistress Erika and her friends.
Your ultimate power over me is terrifying. And it’s good for me.
I am completely overwhelmed by you, my Head Mistress Erika.
You own me.
I have zero willpower.
It’s good for me when you humiliate me for your own entertainment, regardless of anything other than what you want.
hush yo mouth and suck a big fat dick