Everyone wants a better sex life, but will you try femdom chastity to achieve it? Hello sexy readers, Femdom Chastity and Locktober are upon us! While many of you may be tried and true chastity pets, and you need no encouragement, others may be curious or adventurous enough to explore! I often use this platform and time of year to celebrate male chastity! But not just the religious form of chastity, aka “just DON’T do it”. Femdom Chastity can take you to a different level! It isn’t just locking up that cock for the month and forgetting it. It’s about your ability to refocus your energy to become a better version of yourself. Perhaps your goal is to be a better lover or submissive, and for some of you lucky ducks, both! So let’s dig in!
Chastity Flirt
I have an amazing person who calls me, and the term chastity flirt is perfect for this post! Our connection is new, and although he is submissive to Women, we don’t have any formal arrangement a this point. We just have great conversations, and many include chastity. I encourage, and I hope I inspire him! This is important for you to know, that although I engage in many ways with various people, not all are submissive to me. That our connection and journey will be unique to both of us.
Back to Sir Flirts A Lot. He coined the term (or so he thought, you let me know if you’ve heard it before, I haven’t!) to describe his mindset and how wearing a cage makes him feel! You know, guys, even the most submissive of you, when you get around women, you have predatory instincts bubble up. Your focus changes, your energy shifts. Your instincts call upon you on a deep, primal level. To woo and capture (not in an illegal way) the female of the species!
Caged and Uncaged
You know, you can come off as aggressive or untoward, that swelling cock takes over, and he’s not always a gentleman! For those of you who are enlighted, you do not want us to feel that energy when we engage with you! For Women like me, when I feel that energy, I will either walk away or see if I can harness (lock it)! However, when wearing a chastity cage, the mindset shifts. You can’t do a damn thing about your locked penis, so acting untoward is out of the question. You don’t have what it takes to take action or back up your words! YOU don’t feel so much like a predator, and that energy is transmitted with your behavior.
With this situation, my chastity flirt feels free to engage and flirt on a level that is pleasing and acceptable to women. His energy is saying, “I think you are great, and since my penis is behaving, you are free to feel safe and secure, and (please) you can tease me, if you wish!
This makes you focus on her as a person. To enjoy the sexual tension, knowing it won’t go further. Sure, you will be horny, but allow that energy to learn about her, vs making moves to get her into bed.
Femdom Chastity
So we know the typical use of chastity is just abstaining from sex or masturbation. That’s all fine and dandy, but what do you do with that mind that won’t shut off? What do you do with that ever-present erection? Vanilla abstinence stirs the beast; it does NOT tame it! That’s where Femdom Chastity can help! I won’t just lock you up and toss the key, laugh and giggle! Well some of you really enjoy that, so we’ll leave it on your table! I am not a lock it up and forget it kind of Mistress!
Femdom chastity gives you the structure to open and grow, to learn more about you and your sexual responses, as well as your partners! Less focus on the “dickcentric” way of being, to something “else”. Being more attentive, being more helpful to others, and exploring all the pleasures your body can experience and the pleasures you can give that don’t necessarily involve your dick directly. Some report they started to appreciate the nuances and attractiveness of the woman they are with or have an increased fascination to women in general that allows you to know us. Not just to know our body, but to know all of us.
Chastity Research
While you ponder your fate, feel free to do some research on your own if you are new. We have dedicated sites that explore chastity, which I want you to look over. Which resonates with you!? We have Male Chastity phone sex, and for those who like a more intense experience, Chastity Hell. I’ve done the heavy lifting for you, and you can check out my posts on chastity here.
This Locktober
Let’s start the conversation here, comment below! You are also welcome to connect and see how you can either embark on a chastity experience, continue the one you are on, with the focus of exploring your body and how to best please a partner! Know that your chastity experience will be tailored to you, your boundaries, and your ability. There isn’t a one-size-fits-all all experience!
Until We Chat!
Well Mistress Erika, my chastity for you has taught me there is “Getting off for good behaviour “
There isn’t however, “Getting out for good behaviour “!🤣
Now that I have experienced the caged ruined “jiggle and dribble” again and again, I am quite content in my little cages.
October already? I remember a couple years back, starting Locktober in September for you and finishing…(quite literally) in early November! Sigh…perhaps we should try a little deja vu?
Peg! Your life has been up and down and so busy! You are absolutely a chastity champ! I would love that! Let’s do it!
I love this and totally agree! FemDom chastity allows men to connect with women on a deeper level.
They are no longer held captive by their deviant thoughts. Ironically, they are more in control of their minds and bodies.
Of course, that control is happily given to a FemDom Mistress who will ensure that their time in chastity is an experience they will never forget.
Happy Locktober!!! 🔒
Hey Ms Demi! How lovely to see you here, happy locktober to you as well!
I’ve fooled around with chastity on and off for a while but this is my first try at Locktober. Goddess Demi sparked my interest and your articles back up why She holds you in high regard. Mistress Erika, your article has me convinced this month’s gonna flip my world upside down but in the best way. I’m ready to go all in for my Goddess. like She says, “hand over your most prized possession” right? Can’t lie I’m wicked hyped to see what parts of me get unlocked while being locked up. Less “dickcentric” as you say. Genius phrase, Mistress.
Thank you for stopping by and commenting! Dominic! You have to keep me updated on your journey! Ms. Demi is spectacular!
My ex never locked me up but she would deny my orgasm for extended periods and make me wear slinky Jockey lycra spandex panties while teasing me. And she wouldn’t always let me out of them before declaring that it was time to stop. She found it amusing that I was too much of a wimp to cheat and get myself off.
It was especially intense if there was extended denial (in terms of days or weeks), followed by a thorough waxing. Once she did that right before going out on the town for dinner and male strippers but I was in such agony from blue balls that we left the restaurant before ordering dinner.
And it’s virtually impossible to get off once those balls start aching like that. The best remedy is an ice pack and being told off for being so irresponsible.
Anyway, I digress. Being waxed after extended denial makes a subbie that much weaker and makes cageless chastity very easy. My ex’s condescending smirk is forever etched into my mind. And I know that she would absolutely love to hear that you have modified my nickname from peewee to pee-weak, Head Mistress Erika.
I have a small penis.
I’m a cross-dressing little prick.
I want to suck a big fat dick for you.
humiliation is certainly your bailiwick , and I’ve often put men in panty chastity. Certainly a cage is a gold standard, but anything
that reminds you of your status and my control will work!
WE have plenty of names for you don’t we little tommy, two finger tommy, peewee, pee weak and most recently “little tommy no cock” LOL on your knees and get face fucked, FTW YES!
I would definitely be getting face fucked regularly if you were my Mistress in person.
And I would be powerless to resist penis size reduction with cock cages.
And I would thank you in front of your friends as you laugh at me.
So right, slut soooooo right!
Chastity is hot!!! Especially seeing hot mistresses dressing sissies as girls!!!
Yay, carli! Thanks for stopping by!
Male chastity has been an important part of my life for a long time. In my opinion, all men should experience chastity under the control of a woman he trusts. Chastity does influence behavior for the betterment of a relationship. This consensual power exchange between a dominant and submissive can create a very powerful bond. I trust Mistress Erika with my safety. In return She has allowed me to experience Her brand of Femdom chastity. Our adventure has lasted for some time now. Every encounter I have with Her allows me to submit to Her feminine energy which is very powerful. I find it both overwhelming and addictive.
Thank you slave boy , I delight in your words!
I volunteer to be the control group against whom those in chastity are measured this month
LOL What a helper you are!
Oh Mistress Erika, What a wonderful post, I love a good chasity flirt. so imfprtamitive and a great place to start for those curious and wanting to understand chasity!
Thank you for stopping by and leaving a comment! you’re so much fun!