Hello lovers of kink, today I’m going to talk about why orgasm control is addictive. If you are a novice or not in the kinky realm I’ll explain what orgasm control is, and three reasons why some become addicted to it. However, if you already love orgasm control, and submitting that mind and body to Me, you may realize how much you love it and crave it! But did you ever think of the “Why”? My brain goes to the “why’s” of things often,lucky for you , eh? Let’s go…..
Orgasm Control What Is it
Orgasm control is the simple act having control over your orgasm. Meaning, not having an orgasm, until you’ve reached a certain goal. Or in the case of Femdom and being owned by Mistress, until she say’s and how she says.
Want that explosive O?
Your biological directive at a certain level of arousal is screaming at you to continue to orgasm. But as a male, it’s your position and place to hold back that orgasm until your partner is satisfied. So with a simple coupling of a vanilla nature, nothing to do with power exchange Femdom or being owned, orgasm control plays a part in everyone’s life.
It is easier said than done. I know. That’s why orgasm control is so much fun! We get to practice practice PRACTICE!
One Reason Why Orgasm Control Is Addictive
Someone is interested in you, your sex and your sexuality! You may not think that as a traditional thing to become addicted to, but it’s true. If one thing I’ve learned on my years on earth: Men tend to think of their penis as a kind of prize, a work of art, a human magic machine, fun stick etc. They are proud of their friend and not enough females, and in particular females in relationships just don’t pay enough attention to their little daredevil , the attention that penis and the owner craves!
So when you come to me, for orgasm control training it’s thrilling not only for me, but for you as well! You have a very attentive partner. One who is equally vested in the outcome as you are. Not to mention an experienced and intelligent female who knows her way around a cock. But more importantly knows how to get into that brain, and tinker!
Second Reason
The orgasms! If you jerk it n run it feels soooooooo good! I get that. Sometimes a quick wank is what we need. But learning how to control that cum, to ramp up that arousal. To be so in touch with your body and your responses to successfully stave off that O results in mind blowing, explosive orgasms! One that make you shake and weak. Ones that make you crave more, and rue the days before you found such pleasure!
I enjoy those moments with you, it’s so hot for me to hear you, or see you whichever the case may be working that fuck stick. Following my direction with orgasm edging and stopping as many times as I wish. For solo play, reaching a higher goal of edges may be called for. How glorious are those orgasms, after 5, 10 or more edges? Either way, you’ll crave more and if you are like some of my playmates, after that first full mind blowing orgasm you can count on your usual refractory period to be sliced in half or more!
But The Third Reason Why Orgasm Control Is So Addictive
It’s purely biological. The two reasons above, are fantastic and great but they are predicated on “this reason” our own body’s chemistry.
When we become sexually aroused there are certain biological processes that occur. To keep the technical jargon to a minimum and the erotic factor turned up I like to call it your sex juice. Various hormones released during sexual stimulation act as a drug on your brain and body. The longer you ride that sexual high, the more your brain says “Yes yes, I want more”. It feels so good to float in those naughty juices and if you haven’t experienced that “float” or high then you need to get your tuchus to me ASAP!
When we orgasm other processes occur to bring you down off of your high. No wonder people are addicted to orgasm control and chastity! Those “reverse engine” hormones are not expressed and you, my lovely stay high. If you are like me and enjoy reading about the technical stuff here is an easy to read article from Tufts about post coital neurochemistry.
Let Me Hear From You!
Are you experienced with orgasm control? Are you addicted to holding that cum in those balls? Then I want to hear from you! What would be a fourth reason I could have written about?
Are you a novice but looking to imbibe in a little orgasm control? What’s holding you back? I want to know.
Until We Chat ????
Mistress Erika
Good morning mistress. Yet another great blog. You have controlled my O’s since the first time we met. Even during a pandemic you still control my O’s. I promised you 10 ruined O’s I haven’t completed my task yet, but because you control me I’ve put myself in chastity in between my ruined O’s with the hope that it would please you. You own me, and I give myself to you freely.
Bob, Well well well what lovely submissive words, thank you! What delicious thoughts and images you gave me. Stay strong and stay horny this won’t last forever!
You have me doing this along with feminization. Now that we are doing Skype calls this is for real!!! Especially how I confessed to you that I got hard/off minutes into call. Stroking is no more as you have me rubbing your clitty through my panties using vibes/soon to be dildo. Now that you have me me all dressed up as a girl with the makeup/lipstick/wig tips fantasy calls are no longer as yours/Ms Daphne and soon to be other mistresses helping me become the girl I was always meant to be is for real. Weekly calls are a must. I want to do call 2times a week with either you/Daphne with another mistress in telling them what you’ve done to me in orgasm control and feminization. If we can decide on the 2 days this would be great. With summer/days getting longer I’d prefer to do later as neighbors are out and about/mowing grass/landscaping,etc
Paulina! Absolutely! The Ladies here at Enchantrix are fabulous guides to help you be your best feminine self! You are learning skype SO well and I just LOVED walking you through your make up routine, giving you hints and “hacks”. You know all you have to do is hit me up in email or twitter and we’ll arrange sessions/make appointments!
Mistress Erika,
Another totally amazing blog. I LOVE them!
A 4th reason: Orgasm control is very important when your Wife’s BBC lover needs to cum in her first and you are required to service her second, AND then clean-up the wonderful mix of three creamy juices. Believe me, I know! ????
BTW.. Orgasm control is next to impossible when I look at those delicious pouty deep red ???? lips. I would love to gently kiss them ???? and separate them with my tongue. You are GORGEOUS!!
Your C&N Cum Slut Boy Toy, Tom
Hey there naughty T! I so enjoy your energy!
I really love your fourth reason! Tee hee..
and Yummm, naughty slut what you’d do with my lips 😉
Mistress Erika,
I so want to eat a Devil Dog on National Devil Dog Day!
Yum, Yum, Yum…..
Do you know why????
BTW.. I still can’t resist those pouty lips…I have been eating well!
Your C&N Cum Slut Boy Toy Tom
LOL Thanks for the laughs, “devil dog” hahahah!!
Glad you are “eating well” don’t miss a drop!
Mistress Erika,
I will certainly taste that rainbow….but can I please coat it with something creamy first…please, please , pretty please ????????.
Do you know something, you are WONDERFUL! ????
Your C&N Cum Slut Boy Toy Tom
LOL OF COURSE! you know I’d have it no other way!
Hi Goddess Erika,I am on my knees awaiting Your control. Orgasm control is especially important for males like me. For me is it going to be locked into chastity 90% of the time with no meaningful orgasm forever? i know i will never please a women. Do You think the case can be made that i should be locked into chastity and then have the keys totally destroyed?
Ahhhhhhh slave tim, as we discussed before a dynamic woman like myself needs “special” stimulation. Evidence of My Control is one. What’s more evident than to take a shrimp slave dick OUT of chastity to do some dirty deed or another, deny him and put him back!
If I just locked you up and tossed the key, how much fun would that really be… FOR ME?
😉
I like Your idea Goddess Erika. I can’t wait until i am able to afford a cage to see what Your plan is for my little 3 incher. I got a feeling i will still be denied but now You will be able to toy with me more.
I crave orgasm control and denial!….. I love being so turned on, maybe either from edging or being stimulated by your words… perhaps utilizing a vibrator….Then Finally, either being denied an orgasm or allowed only a limited ‘ruined orgasm’ ( even better while still locked in chastity) I would NEVER go back to having orgasms when i desired like a real man…..For me, total surrender of my orgasms to the control of Mistress is not only the best, it’s the ONLY way!
*pats head* what a good sissy you are! Thanks for stopping by, princess #PussyFree4life
Mistress Erika,
Response to your Wednesday Tweet: What I had for breakfast ..
At just after 7:00am I ate my Wife’s delicious creampie, then she had me sample her nectar, after that she made me have all of mine. Yum, Yum, Yum, Yum… the only thing better would haven been an additional load of of cum from one of our playmates mixed in to the creampie.
your C&N Cum Slut, Boy Toy AND Creampie for Breakfast Eater Tom
I think it is quite simple.The erotic feelings last longer.Why not be in a an elevated zone of pleasure for long periods of time.You are not doing yourself any favors releasing quickly.Thank you Mistress Erika for another informative blog.
Hello Gigi!
Thank you for supporting my assertions! I agree totally, so much better for teasing over a long period of time!
Orgasm control is pretty addictive, but I had never thought about the mechanics of it so deeply. Thank you for this fascinating post, Mistress Erika.
Thank you Andre! I’m the kinda person who likes to know the “why’s” Why something works, that way you can take that basic premise and apply apply and APPLY to all kinds of naughty and exciting things!
I love orgasm control for the same reason I find being restrained or gagged so incredibly hot. I love it when a woman has total intimate control over me.