Many of you love the fact that I am a sensual Dominatrix; others are surprised to find out I can be sensual. So which is it? It’s both, my sweets. Both. I do not have to be one or the other! What does that mean? How does my ability to vacillate between sensual, strict, or mean impact our sessions, your submissiveness? Let’s take a look!
Sensual Beginnings
When I first started to realize my love of ruling over men and their cocks, my sweet inner sadist was buried underneath social conditioning. Although I’ve always been a firebrand, if a man or anyone else decided I was a pushover or behaved improperly in interpersonal relationships, I remained supportive, teasing, and sensual. I typically achieved what I wanted and needed, being a sensual tease and tickling those testicles until you obey.
But my sensualness didn’t always get me what I wanted, depending on the partner. Add to the mix my kinky needs growing as I discovered all types of naughty play. Panties on my man was the beginning, not to feminize per se, but as sexy dominant play. I’ve never been icked out by ejaculate and viewed it as evidence and part of the erotic engagement. But when I went to kiss someone, with a drop of his own cum whispered on my lips, he was totally icked out! Cue some mild: Righteous indication! After all, you expect me to taste it, then you need to know what it is like, right? I absolutely adore kissing someone after they’ve gone down on me, tasting my essence on their lips. Why isn’t it the same for him? I guess why wasn’t the point, really? The point is, you need to expand your boundaries because I find it hot, and if I find it hot, you WILL do it.
Sensual Continuum
My mind was whirling with possibilities, options, and learned techniques. I utilized a mix of tease and denial with an element of verbal coercion to get his cum dancing on his taste buds. I was delighted at the result, and surprisingly didn’t feel awful about doing it. This is counter to years of societal conditioning. I actually got really turned on, as I stretched my inner sadist. No one was worse for wear, and what woman doesn’t use similar tactics to get what they want? Just because what I want is sexual and less than mainstream doesn’t mean it is wrong.
Not So Sensual
From there, my ability and, more importantly, desire to explore that inner sadist grew. This is when I started to explore sensation and pain play. Putting my needs first, being insistent and demanding, and when needed, even an air of not caring, “You’ll do this, or this will happen.” I saw in practice (in a sexual context) what I was already aware of. Different people respond to the same stimulus differently. While one guy responds, submits, and leans in to a sensual application, others do not.
Human behavior, being a “hobby like”an interest for me, was fascinating for me to lean into my partners and see how their gears turned, what makes their clock tick! It’s thrilling beyond arousal and orgasm, if you can latch onto the idea that many things are pleasing and exciting, along with orgasms!
During this time, I did a lot of introspection, evaluating my role in the world and what it ultimately means that I’m aroused and excited to be “harsh, or cruel at times.” Since it’s not a must-do for me, I can enjoy a variety of engagement types. I concluded that I’m like many of you. I like to explore, to push boundaries as the opportunity arises. Sure, it’s not mainstream, but that’s the best part of this type of play! I resolved to rest on the principles of BDSM, negotiation, play, and aftercare to guide us. If you give consent, then that’s when I feel free to express the stricter, meaner side of myself.
Best of Both Worlds
What does all this rambling mean in relation to our connection? It means that regardless of your submission style or desires (what you respond to best), I am there for it! Often, pets who come to play are delighted to get a little of every part of me! The rollercoaster of a session most likely will include some sensual elements, and as you are strapped into your seat, and we make that climb to the top, filled with anticipation. You’ll enjoy the twists, turns, and butterflies, as I guide us from sensual to strict and back again, until we pull into the station.
But don’t worry if you are totally into 100% Sensual Domination, just ensure you mention it during our negotiations, as mentioned: “I don’t have to go there”.
So tell me, my lovely pets, fans, and lookieloos, a bit about your erotic journey! Comment below, keep it PG13/R-rated, as I have above! Can’t wait to hear from you!
Until We Chat
I love a fluid combo of sensual, strict and outright cruel. Makes for a lovely rollercoaster of feelings, emotions and mind trip.
I also love wearing Her panties during intercourse. Makes me feel owned by Her. Like I’m wearing Her mark.
I had an experience a long long time ago where the Woman liked Her own taste on my lips and I thought it was the sexiest thing ever.
I also enjoy tasting myself on Her lips. I look at it as a sign of gratitude.
Hi Ottoman!
Thanks so much for taking the time to leave a comment! You have quickly become one of the delightful regulars around the Empire so how sexy to learn more about you! YUMM! 😘😘
I have always been fascinated with all the different facets of M’Lady, Ms. Erika.
Even after 9+ years of serving her, I have yet to see them all, I’m not entirely sure I want to see extreme strict side of this Lady. But she always delivers more than I ever expect.
Well darling SubD, as you know I do what works, you melt at my soft touch, you lean in to a delightful or even firm command.
When that stops working so delightfully for me, we’ll talk ! LOL
9 years, OMG time flies when you are having fun! Thank you for being in my orbit and such a special pet!
I have seen several sides of you. I recall on period where I was curious and asked for mean Mistress Erika, just to get a taste. I was not disappointed and you got to see me reach a space I seldom need to. I recall one other time, Mean Mistress Erika was looking for an outlet, and I was free. I scheduled some time and let you take your strict side out. It was fun, intense, and I felt it more of a service that time than being an object of your ire.
It is fun to see how many ways the different sides of us can fit together in different ways.
Thank you for such delightful words of review! I enjoy your ability to be flexible. Even if on your hand and knees washing a floor!
Having had a relationship with you for many years, Head Mistress Erika, I can assure any other readers that this is 100% true,
It is hard to describe you fully to a stranger in just a few words but I’ll try.
You are intelligent, insightful, creative, consensual and genuine.
The longer I know you, the better it gets.
aww sweet no cock, you always say the most lovely things!
😘😘 What a day, a day which will go down in infamy, when you called for another Mistress
and giggled at your little D! You called me the next day I was on for calls (not dispatching)
and the rest was history! I no longer answer phones as a dispatcher, but I’m sure glad
I did that stint! I met you!
It is absolutely a day in infamy. How deliciously humiliating to realize that the lady in dispatch, who knows my full real name, is also a Mistress who enjoys SMALL penis humiliation as much as I do.
And now, 8 years later, you are my Head Mistress and I am more broken that I ever thought possible.
And LOVING IT more than I ever thought possible.
LOL oh Thomas! That’s true, it was a day to remember! Who knew giggling at the comment of 4″ would turn into such a whirlwind journey!
I adore the strict you!
I adore how you lean in! Thanks Dickless!
Love how you’ve sensual dominated me into being your sissy girl with lipstick kisses on my cheeks as I’ve tried to resist say no and deny you only to be put in panties/bra/wig/makeup/lipstick/
Heels and dresses! Your to hot sexy and powerful to say no as you and the other mistresses giggle and say how cute adorable and look better as a girl instead of a guy
Hello Carli girl! Thanks for stopping by to comment! It’s true you are weak for pretty panties, smooth legs and lipstick kisses
Very interesting Goddess Erika. This got me thinking. I don’t think i get either your strict or sensual side during my dark room sessions.🧎♂️🧎♂️🧎♂️ So i think i am the rare caller that gets neither your strict or sensual side. I wonder what side i get from you while being ignored.
That is a very interesting question! humm.. Well since ignoring you is the harshest humiliation, and I’ve not once even said hello to you in that amount of time, I’d classify it
as strict/mean!
I wonder what others have to say?
Very interesting Goddess Erika.🧎♂️🧎♂️🧎♂️ So in other words you can be strict,mean or harsh without speaking to me. I wasn’t thinking that would be possible but after thinking about it. It is possible.
Absolutely! When I tell others of your service, they are astounded! We’ve agreed , ignore is the harshest of humilations, humm pet?
Strict or sensual? To quote the author herself “why not both?” I think the balance of the two is what makes you so great at what you do. I want a mistress who will take firm control because she cares about me,not because she’s a sadist.
Aww Dr, thank you! You do know me well, as well! “why not both!” yay! well Dr can I be a caring sadist?😁🤯😳🤭🤭 😘😘
I love this post and I love the fact that you can transition so smoothly and easily between sugar and spice.
It’s easy to imagine being across the table from you in a restaurant, feeling like we’re having a lovely time together but then getting very tense when you punctuate your comments with a knowing smile.
A double entendre can sound like nothing to anyone else yet have a very powerful impact on me.
Or if you tug on my earlobe while we’re waiting for a table.
Or if you say, “I love the way you beg to French kiss me after Frank comes in my mouth” without raising or lowering your voice because you love to see how red you can make my ears in public.
Oh Pee wee you are fantastic and you know me so well! It’s true , at times I’m just a “regular” lady, enjoying a nice meal but you know at the snap of a finger or
gesture of a pinky I will have your knees trembling and that small dick leaking! mm!
I can imagine you regularly calling me “little beat-off” or “little Jerk-off” or, a LEG SHOW favorite…”jerky boy” in private and then switching to “little one” in public and enjoying it when like-minded others look into your eyes to confirm that it means what they think it means.