Are you a “man” humiliated by your bi-sexual desires? Last Friday I had a blog about cock sucking which leads me to this blog about males and bi-sexual behavior. Are you bi-sexual? If you think about pleasing a cock does that make you gay? Although I don’t really care for labels or classifying people into “a” group, I’m smart enough to understand the necessity for doing so at times. Getting those humiliation juices flowing…… arousing your sexuality,as your mind drops deeper into subspace……fuck I just gave myself goosies! Onward with your bi-sexual thoughts and perhaps even your behavior……….
Not sure what your desires “mean”. Well, simply phrased: If you are attracted to , and aroused (sexually) by two (bi) genders (typically male & Female) you are bi-sexual. Therefore, just because you abstain from bi-sexual behavior it won’t change your “label”. You are bi-sexual. So, it looks like that ship has sailed, my friend. The common definition of bi-sexual doesn’t have to include engaging in the sexual behavior. Let that sink in for a bit. I know it’s a common “rationalization” many have. Ready to move on?
The big question most men have is am I gay if I suck a cock? We’ve already determined you are bi-sexual, but are you gay? IMO there is a big difference being bi and being gay, or homosexual. Homosexuality is the desire of not only sexual relations of the same sex but it’s also a predominant part of who you are, what you desire beyond sex. Beyond the penis. There are large parts of the male population who are aroused at the thought of being sexually intimate with a penis, but not wanting or desiring living with a man as their life partner. It’s a sexual taboo, and humiliation is part of that taboo.
Humiliated By Bi-sexual Desires
Some conversations I’ve had are about the humiliation factor of “secret” bi-sexual desires. Bi-sexual humiliation is powerful in your mind, and powerful in your sexuality! You imagine being found out by a close friend or spouse. Yearning for someone to see YOU, the REAL you. How those around you would be mortified at the thought of YOU kneeling and pleasing a cock.
But some say, there are many people who are accepting, why is there humiliation?
It’s true we live in a fantastic time in 2019. Larger and larger portions of the population are more accepting than ever before about gender identity, sexuality and our general ability to live our authentic selves. I’m not saying it’s an easy and smooth sailing journey. There are those, who are small minded, and fearful little nuggets of human smegma. They lash out at “difference” in the world as if it’s going to be solving something in their own F’d up lives. To that, I say : Mind your own genital cheese and leave the rest of us alone!
Bi-Sexual Desires Without Humiliation
Let’s pretend tomorrow the entire world was “behind difference”. Accepting and tolerant for anything outside of their comfort zone. Suddenly everyone is able to feel comfortable and confident with who they identify as, and who they wish to be sexual with. With your humiliation , stemming in part from “society’s scorn”, for your perverted behavior vanish? Oh, how sad will that be? No more gay boi humiliation making that willy weep huumm? So, in some ways, having those around who disapprove of your perversion, and do so with fervor are doing you a favor! Right?
Interesting thoughts, don’t you think? Now I have some thoughts about the question of humiliation, bi-sexuality and how it all interacts, changes (or doesn’t) as our culture evolves. But I want to know what you think. Are you humiliated by your bi-sexual desires? I want to hear from you.
Until we chat ????
Great piece. Very honest and true especially the part about someone who is bisexual. I’ve always been of that belief that if you have sucked a cock you’re not straight. I don’t believe a male who gets sucked by another male or Fucks them is gay or bi unless there is kissing or if they touch the other guys dick. There’s nothing wrong with labels helping us figure out who we are. There’s also nothing wrong with being either Bi or Gay as long as it’s consensual. But that’s just me.
As for me personally I know I’m not straight I’m some where between Bi and Gay Faggot (Gay Submissive). I definitely have the humiliation aspect attached to it as well.
Thanks for stopping by Steph! Very interesting comment! I appreciate your input!
Mistress, I’m pretty sure you know where I stand on this issue. I can relate to being humiliated for my same sex thoughts and actions. Also, I can see just being accepted as bi. For the later, I agree, kinda boring. Humiliation can be such a turn on. For me, the label of bi-sexual, was a gateway word for me to use until I accepted the big one…HOMOsexuality. That isn’t to say that I think bisexuality doesn’t exist. I believe it does. For me, however, I realized my lack of attraction, desires for women. But, I love the memory of my wife finding out I was a cock sucker. Cheers to this post, Mistress!!
It has been amazing to be a part of your HOMOsexual journey. From straight married man, to cuckold, bi and now your little noodle doesn’t even twitch at the thought of a nice warm pussy. But it does dance a very HAPPY dick dance when thinking of pleasing that penis! mmm!
You are so right!! I can’t get my little hose to move a millimeter for a woman. Not even a boob job got it to twitch!!!????. I am soooo GAY!
Mistress Erika, I am unquestionably Bi!! And I love my new life because of your guidance. Your forever grateful C&N Slut Boy Tom.
BTW… you are an amazing writer…
Thank you for that compliment, Tom! You are definitely bi- !Also a fantastic submissive! Your MILF wife,and your slutty self have been a great deal of fun!
Thank you for pointing out I am a submissive. You have trained me well. Other straight and soon to be bi guys would do well to submit to your training program. Your C&N Submissive Slut!!! Tom
I don’t worry about such labels…All that matters is that i obey …..if told to suck i will suck….with gusto!
You’re fantastic princess, Submit and Obey……m
I just find the thought of a hairy male body to not be very appealing..but then the thoughts of being manipulated to think differently is kinda on my mind often…
Mmmmmm Nice to know, 23rd letter of the alphabet! Submissive cock sucking without any organic desire is pretty awesome, also a great gift you give your Mistress!
Well it embarrasses the fuck out of me to be so turned on by it… lol
Goddess Erika, i don’t label myself at all. i only suck cock because it is my role as submissive loser. It is also how i admit that all those men are superior to me.
I’m not gay nor bi but after doing much thinking the relationship I want to be in is where women who want to put makeup on me. I have the dresses/women’s clothes/makeup/ lipsticks/wigs, etc. Being single is what’s best for me as there’s no drama or emotions of being in relationship and I can dress up as a girl whenever I want as well tell women this is who I am and become. There doesn’t have to be sex involved. I want to be in female lead relationship with women as this is what’s best and right for me. There’s no point in fighting/resisting that I’m a cream puff girl as I’ve accepted this and hope women will to as I’ll be open and honest about this.
Paulina you make a great point! Your feminization is all about Dominant women controlling and making you their weak submissive gurl. No GUYS allowed! I think more folks need to know this about Feminization, perhaps next week I’ll touch on that
This is what I going to talk to my masseuse about tomorrow Thats relationship I’m looking for with her. No sex as I don’t care about that just her having harmless feminization fun with me
That makes feel better..I really desire cock but never wanted to give up women . I could love a cock but to fully love a man and all that comes it is not me . So reading your thoughts tells me I can be bi without being gay. Thank you Mistress
Hi Emily, the human mind is a complex thing and that’s why it’s so fantastic! you are a great example of th same!
Getting in a verbal fight can be funny. Since high school, whenever someone calls me a faggot, it doesn’t make me mad, it makes me blush! That’s how you win a fight with me because I’ll just get quiet and leave. Like you guessed my secret. It used to happen to me a lot because I’m shy and introverted. I’ve literally needed to go home and masturbate immediately when it’s a woman who says this to me. Happens less often these days. People are woke and that’s a good thing, but getting called a faggot always used to make my day.
Hey there Stelmos, so glad you decided to comment and share your experiences! What happens less these days, people calling you a fag or Masturbation!
Being called a fag definitely happens less than masturbation these days. But thinking about being called a fag for my faggy tendencies happens just as often as masturbation.
Great information to know! Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment
Goddess Erika, Great post. I don’t get into labels and i am not gay. Just do it to be a submissive and obey You. It wouldn’t matter if i was gay. I have a relative who is and they are nice people. That is all that matters.
Nothing wrong with being Gay, regardless if you are humiliated by it or not. If you are, great more ways to play!
Thank Mistress Erika for a great post that is very relevant to my life. I grew up in the 1970s when the world was still unaccepting of anything outside the norm.As a child I secretly wanted to wear “Women’s” clothing. I spent a lot of time as a child around Females. Did I bond with them? We had clothing drives in those days so I would look to see if my sisters were getting rid of anything and wear them.When no one was home I would put their makeup on. Now, I also had older brothers too so I was expected to act a certain way. Mom didn’t like sissies and dad called anybody who didn’t live up his masculine standards, a fag. I also had a Female next door neighbor who was 6 years older than me who used to dominate and humiliate me about everything. The seeds were planted. I played sports so that was my cover(like Caitlyn Jenner). Once I got out of high school,my subconscious took over. I got my ear pierced (just the left on because that meant you were straight) and started lightening my already long hair. My jeans got tighter and I wore high waisted ones. I had a few close Female friends who wanted to put makeup on me and I pretended I wasn’t interested to save face. I would protest after they put a little mascara or lip gloss on me first.lolSo I thought I was straight besides the fact that I masturbated to fantasies of being dressed up by a Girl who would insist I wear Girls clothes.By the mid 80s I met the Woman who would become my Wife and eventually my ExWife. She put a vibrator in my ass.She would buy me panties, bras, lingerie. To Her, it was not something She wanted to do all the time so whenever She wasn’t around, I was wearing panties and playing with myself.I wanted Her to dominate me all the time but She wouldn’t so I began calling domination lines. When we got a house, I asked Her if I wear Girls clothes and makeup at home. She said yes and bought me lots of Girls clothes. Eventually She stopped seeing me as a man. We lived as lesbians at home and played with dildoes for sexual fulfillment for a while. Needless to say, She decided She needed a real cock and Since I was no longer a man to her and an under endowed sissy, She would be a Hotwife. A maid’s uniform soon followed. She fell in love with a Bull and we divorced. Now, I don’t know who or what I am. This much is true. I am more into being a sissy than ever. I suck and fuck dildoes. Without any prompting.I can’t wait to get home and be who I want to be.Now I still believe Women are physically more attractive. I love being around them. I’m still in the sissy closet. I ask myself if I should persue a Female? I can’t please them with a clitty. I can orally please them but that won’t be enough. Should I volunteer to be a cuckold? Lately I’ve asked myself if maybe I should have a boyfriend. I have become increasingly more attracted to cocks and the idea of sucking and maybe fucking a real one. I would love to be a stay at home Wife so I need to consider it. I don’t know that if I could love a man. I would be out of the closet, that’s for sure.All these thoughts still humiliate me because of my background. I call Sissyschool exclusively because You wonderful Mistresses understand people like me. I thrive sexually on humiliation. I can’t cum without it. So am I bisexual because I find Women and cocks attractive? Am I a faggot because I want cock and don’t have sex with Women. Why do I enjoy being verbally abused and laughed at by Women for being a sissy with a clitty. Can I live without it? If I could, maybe I could find I a Woman. Then again if I can’t please Her does that mean I’m destined to always be a cuckold or alone. Should I lock up my clitty and find a keyholder? Maybe I’m transgendered? Am I a heterosexual Woman or maybe bisexual Woman. Would I be able to enjoy sex without humiliation?I don’t enjoy being humiliated by men. So many questions and still no clear cut answers.So the only thing I know for sure is i’m not a straight alpha male.Thank You for your wonderful post and I will be calling soon to discuss this with You and receive any humiliation You’re willing to give me.????
This is a fantastic view point! Thank you for sharing, I know many out there will benefit from your experience.
kisses, nice post 🙂