Good day my friends! Is being locked in chastity humiliating or a gift? I’ll be looking at this interesting question today. Since Locktober is well underway it is a good good time to talk about some of the intimate dynamics behind chastity, when locked in chastity.
Is Chastity Humiliating
Is the thought or act of locking up your cock humiliating for you? I know at some level every man feels a bit humbled by the experience. You’ve been conditioned your entire life about the power of your phallus, regardless of the size. The entire “being a man” thing is your ability to provide. Financially, emotionally and physically. So to take that ability to provide away, and you have a very humbling experience some liken it to humiliation.
What makes chastity humiliating or not is the reason behind locking up that cock. Sometimes chastity play is because the guy has a lackluster cockette and shouldn’t be allowed to roam free like a real man. Then the chastity play is centered around that humiliation. You are not good enough, and should feel your shame wrapped around that sorry excuse for penis, as much as possible
Is Being Locked In Chastity A gift
Unlike the above, where your short comings are the reasons for your cock’s captivity more often is the case of being locked in erotic chastity play. A form of cock control, for sure. If you masturbate too much leaving little to nothing for the lady in your life, well what good is that? She’s unhappy and you know that’s never good. So this chastity play will show your devotion to your lady is shown by having her lock that cock, keeping it hot n horny just for her is the gift, the commitment you make to her. She unlocks you daily, weekly or whenever she wants to play!
Not being able to play with her cock is a major misconception among women out there as to why women say no to chastity. “But I like it when it’s hard” “cock is too much fun to lock up”. Trust me, I identify with both statements. I too love cock. But locking up that cock doesn’t mean you don’t get any of those things, it just means you are in charge of when you get to play, assured your cock will be ready willing and able to please her. How long can you , or how long you stay locked in chastity is entirely up to her.
Chastity Is A Gift For You Both
In addition to giving her that gift of control. Knowing you’ll be dreaming of her, how to please her so she will want to play with that cock is your gift of chastity. Making you a better man, more focused on the right things. For some chastity heightens the feelings of submission, devotion and commitment. It is a magnificent thing to experience and one reason why I enjoy being a chastity Mistress.
What are some of your ideas about chastity play? I’d like to hear them. Comment below, better yet let’s chat! You know how: Pick up that phone or connect with me on skype for your chastity talk sexy texting session! Don’t have Skype? We have our own kinky chat room, private secure.
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Chastity Mistress Erika
For me chastity is a form of attention while my keyholder is not there. It not only is a constant reminder to me, of my predicament, but it is her will enforced on me.
Although it can be fun in the moment, the most intense times in chastity are when you are alone, controlled but not in control, vulnerable. For me there is humiliation in enjoying it, and in the humility in acting on it.
Can’t wait for the next time we talk about it
What a great introspection! See how lovely chastity is! I’m looking forward to chatting with you!
I look at it as both. Humiliating that you can’t function like a man where you can’t achieve an erection or get off. If there is a key holder you are humiliated in giving that power and control to another person.
But it’s also a gift in that you are learning and being trained to serve others along with self control. In the long run it’s a beneficial gift in your evolution.
Stephanie YOU Get it, Yay! thanks for stopping by!
it is both humiliating and a gift….it is humbling in my case because i have a limp micro clit in the cage which seems to shrink more daily. It is locked because it is embarrassingly small, inadequate and unworthy of pussy!……But it is also a gift, because not having access to my clit and it being limp and impotent in its cage….i can focus more on what is important….Serving Mistress…..not my own selfish desires.
Aww, princess. I love your take on the gift, how it ultimately is yours as well. Free from the expectations of a real man, you can relax and “Be” who you are!
Chastity is a gift for both Mistress and sub for sure.
A gift from Mistress to sub – A teaching tool for the sub. It will inevitably teach the sub in one fashion or another what type of sub they are because having your cock taken away forces you to focus on other aspects of your character and how you can present them, thus make you a better person.
A gift from sub to Mistress – A formidable act of submission by succeeding all choices concerning said sub’s cock to the Mistress in question, giving the ultimate authority over his sexual desire to the woman he trusts most – his Mistress.
Good to see you over here, such wise words you leave me! They will serve you well going forward in the coming weeks! I’d be interested in discussing this further towards the end of the month,with you. see how your mind is then. I’m assuming the delivery has been made?
The delivery has been made and accepted well. Ms. Delia and I ensured that it fit properly and I’ve been locked up since the night of Sept. 30th.
Fantastic! I have no idea why I have not been notified of comments being made! This is a great update, thanks sam!
I’ve gone month without getting hard or off with chastity. If you get me in chastity you will have done what no other mistress has. At first I was scared of this but now it’s hot how you can lock us up. Especially now that you have me dressed up as your submissive weak helpless soft and feminine cream puff girl. I don’t mind the humiliation nor care what others think anymore. Now that you Ms Olivia & Ms Delia got me to confess about wearing women’s clothes/makeup/lipstick/bras and panties with lipstick kisses on my cheeks. Women really do have the power and control. If you were to lock me up and give me release I’m interested in this. Especially if if involves my continued feminization.
Oh Paulina! Your feminization will be taken to the next level with Chastity! Let’s talk more about it soon!
Goddess Erika, I would think that being locked in chastity is both humiliation and a gift but more humiliation. I guess chastity really is great for a submissive. Though i can make the case that i am big enough to still let roam free.
LOL yes you are pookie SOoooooooooo BIG hahahhaha
How about discipling oneself to mental chastity without the device.This still intensifies the feelings.This shows real control.Having the buildup with discipline adds hours of enjoyment considering how often males think about the opposite sex.
It should read How about disciplining oneself to mental chastity without the device.
Hi Goddess Erika, Thanks for having me lock up my pathetic 3 inch erect pee-pee in my metal spike cage for 300 hours a month. It is a gift for me. It doesn’t deserve to roam free as it will never have sex and it will never please anyone even including myself. I know i can never support a women financially,emotionally or physically. You once again improved my life for the better.
I think this will make me a better submissive and put my mind on the more important things in life like being a great slave.
I was just reading through your blog today Goddess Erika just to see all of your great blog posts about chastity over the years to see if your views have changed. On chastity it has always been the same it seems.
Hi slave! You’re right purpose and place and once we know ours , it’s better. You don’t have to stress about aspiring to something you cannot achieve!
Yes, re chastity. Some deserve to be locked, unlocked and played with. Others , locked spiked and denied. Place and purpose ????
Goddess Erika, You are so right, i don’t have any stress now because i know my place and purpose in every aspect of my life. You have always stressed place and purpose. I accepted early in terms of slavery and chastity. The last thing i accepted is working for minimum wage but since i am not talented enough i know my place and purpose in life is getting worked hard for $7.25 an hour for the rest of my life. I have found out that the less you make the harder you get worked. People have no problem working losers hard as it seems it is the same as cleaning up after men.
Ahhhhh yes, clean up for “MEN” but there is some good news, as the years go by Min wage increases! Imagine 10.00 an hour! That means more ignore calls for losers humm?
I love you know your place and purpose NOW!!
Hi Goddess Erika, Now that the contract is close to official as of April 20th. Do You think that the hours in the chastity cage should get to the most amount possible without shrinking my worthless pee-pee. It just seems that it would make sense with me being a slave in all. Don’t you think it would help me totally focus on my slavery? After all even little boys tend to think of their pee-pees way to often. My place is serving and hard labor so i shouldn’t have the time to orgasm. I just don’t want to be a selfish male.