For today’s blog I thought it would be fun to share some of my Mistress musings over this and that. Perhaps give a peek inside my head, and provide a smile or two.
I love interacting with everyone at Enchantrix Empire. It is my solace. my safe place to be, in this current social climate that seems bereft of grace and tolerance for anything or anyone“different”. I most certainly prefer to hang out there, than FB these days. Everyone is supportive of each other, and able to celebrate our particular kinks without the stigma’s and social pressures. I love it.
I have been asked if I like humiliation. Well, being mean just to be mean isn’t my forte’ . Talking privately with many people who are sexually charged by humiliation. Let us make that distinction. Many people who enjoy anything from mild to severe humiliation for sex play do not necessarily want it 24/7, and be immersed in the humiliation as a lifestyle. For whatever reasons, some people have a brain which is wired differently. So something like laughing and pointing at a small penis that makes “Billy’s willy shrink” makes “Buddy’s willy swell”. It is what it is. Now, getting into “how” our brains “Get wired” to begin with is a long subject better discussed in another forum, but is a fascinating subject for sure.
There are those who have a non-sexual masochism tendency. I guess you can think of it as a “lifestyle” masochist. Some individuals may unconsciously enter into relationships and situations which undermine their happiness and cause them suffering. Any happiness, success or pleasure causes feelings of guilt, depression and may self inflict pain. But for the most part, sexual humiliation is what I more often encounter. So aside from the non-sexual masochistic personality, which is way above my pay grade, everyone likes to find a place they can be accepted. At our very core, we want to be appreciated and celebrated for we bring to the table. There is no need to use humiliation in inappropriate circumstances. Humiliation is a tool/toy, if you will. Always used wisely, erotically for the mutual benefit and pleasure of those involved.
Getting to know you, play with you on and off of calls has been great! Sure a quick call for a quick wanking session is fun, and has its place. But there are a few who call regularly and I love to share emails with them. Talking about future calls etc. The planning and anticipation of our sexy call is so hot and lends to a great call.
But I do ask that you don’t get your panties in a wad, so to speak, if I can’t answer your email or IM right away. It’s not that I’m ignoring you, it’s just that FemDom Phone Sex gets in the way! Ha! So I’m happy to share my spare time with you, as I can, but remember (at the risk of sounding like a bore) this is my business and like any business there are things to attend to. You know how to get my undivided attention. 😉
More Mistress Musings…..
I hope that once the dust settles on my new adventure at LDW/Enchantrix Empire, I’d like to get back to being “Erika” , more kayaking enjoying nature, and life in general.
It’s been a while since I read a good book. I tend to be a bit obsessive when I start reading a book I am into. Shunning a lot in my personal life in favor of devouring every word on every page, every free moment from work that I have. I’ve read pretty thick books (Jean Auel type books) in a week.
Speaking of which, I have her sixth installment on my bookshelf and it whispers to me everyday. Erika, come and get lost with Jondalar and Ayla transport yourself back to a time where man’s struggle was basic survival. Void of all the trappings of our modern world. Filled with mysticism, and a way of life so foreign to us. Discover our ancestors as they make monumental discoveries of their own.
However, don’t assume I like all authors of historical fiction. My taste in reading material is as vast and varied as my taste in Kinks. One day historical fiction, the next reading about serial killers, from one of the pioneers of serial killer profiling, John Douglas, to the laws of behavior modification in dogs the next, Harlan Coben mystery, or even Memoirs of a Geisha. It just depends on my mood.
Lastly, I love what I do and I hope it shows in everything I do. I love getting suggestions and ideas from my callers so don’t hesitate to drop me an email and let me know your naughty thoughts.
Hi Mistress Erika, I am into humiliation but agree with you on being mean to just be mean is not the right way. Losers like me do deserve humiliation because I am at the bottom of the social hierarchy. You can make the case that it is not humiliation when you are a loser. I agree that it also not something that should be done 24/7.
Well thanks for the insight! I read the first two of those books a while ago, but then went on to other stuff. What else do you like to read? I’m a non-fiction guy. 🙂 I hope you find the right balance; you sound like you have and will. But being Erika will always mean spending time here, at least I hope. 🙂 And amen about Facebook! Too damn intense right now!
Hi, BFLA, thanks for stopping by!! I like non-fiction depending on the subject. Reading bio’s from people who represent qualities I would like to see in myself, and try to hear, see, feel their mindset. NLP is based on modeling and I like to think I’ve used this and similar methods to improve myself over the years. Of course decoding your dog, how to behave so you dog behaves, and other books based on the CORRECT and scientificly proven methods of behavior modification and dog behavior has been my steady diet for the past few years.
I love it here, BFLA, just love it. I had a fleeting thought the other day. If I won the lottery and didn’t have to work another day in my life, this is the kind of job I would continue showing up for, because I simply adore it. I certainly hope I have a long and fruitful adventure here with LDW!!
I know what you mean. People are good to me, but they think I’m “weird” for being into bdsm. I’ve been that way for years I’d suggest games which involved the other tying me up (this is waaaaaaaaay before I thought of it in a sexual context). there was a comedy show for called Turkey TV. The show featured sketches called “and “Somebody” who conjured ways to make life miserable for their I remember counting the minutes in until I could go home & watch their delicious cruelty. It got my juices flowing.
Thank you for providing a safe outlet for this side of me. <3
Thank you for correcting my faux pas. I wasn’t thinking. ????