For the die-hard anal fan the title of my blog, Much Ado About Anal Sex, probably sends them into outer space! They can’t understand why the average Joe, or Jane doesn’t fall hand over cock at the mention of playing with that hot button! Yet others cringe at the thought! I often hear both extremes when it comes to this kink. What is it about Anal Sex that is both taboo and so damn hot? Most everyone agrees a shapely buttock is very erotic? To touch, caress Why not explore further?
History of Anal Sex
Truth is people have probably been having anal sex since the first time we made the connection between sex and babies. Anal sex was a very reliable birth control method for our ancient ancestors. Anal sex has been depicted throughout our history as something bad, belonging to the depraved. We all know about religious taboo’s, societal restrictions. Once being seen as sex of the “brothels” where the ladies would encourage anal sex to avoid pregnancy. There are thousands of well trotted out reasons why NOT to engage the anus. I think one culprit was largely because proper lube hadn’t been invented! Think about it. What lube was available then? Spit, olive oil, animal grease?! Ouch!
New to Anal
It’s important to start small, lubed and prepped! Skipping these will either send you running for the hills or finding out what a pain slut you really are! But, if the feeling of being ravaged by a porcupine on a pole doesn’t do it for you, here’s some steps to take to make sure your first experience is pleasurable and not admittable (emergency room).
Start of with a small dildo or fingers
Use a silicone based lube
Make sure you are very aroused before playing with your butt button. Some folks are less inhibited when turned on and more willing to push their limits.
Slow Simmering Sexy
From all the stories I’ve heard from others about their first experience there’s one lesson: Don’t rush things, play, explore and discover all the new sensations and the new heights of passion you and your partner can achieve! Allowing your mind to relax and enjoy your experience, as you train that hot ass to relax is something you won’t regret. Then, as you train, you can try lager dildos. When that special day comes you’ll be ready for the real thing! Then if you like it a bit ruff, then go for it! Always remember, be safe and be sane! #Wrapthatshitup
Come-on – Back That Ass Up!
I have an aversion to anal sex. It is the result of a bad experience with a doctor. No, what the doctor did wasn’t a sex crime, but it was extremely insensitive and the horror of it has remained with ever since.
I neglected to tell a Mistress I wasn’t open to that kind of play when I called, and I know damn well she would have respected it if I had told her, but when I was talking to her and telling her how sometimes pain enhances my pleasure and she had posted pictures of her hardwood floor, I told her I had fantasized about being on my hands and knees without knee pads on her hardwood floor with the pain on my knees enhancing the erotic experience.
She mis-understood me, and thought I was asking for anal.
I knew I was safe with her, and if I said stop she would, and something made me want to try to overcome it as she (over the phone obviously) started to fuck my ass, and it was really a really beautiful special call because my aversion had been conquored.
I still have an aversion to it, but now sometimes when the mood is right I can allow it, and it is beautiful.
Honestly though I don’t think I could pitch, it’s not something I ever fantasize about and when I’ve specifically tried fantasizing about it as an experiment I go soft – but catching from a Mistress with a strap-on, I can when the mood is right over-come it.
And that is what I fucking love about phonesex. You can explore things and heal.
What an amazing post. Thank you. I just love getting to know everyone in the Enchantrix Empire. Also an excellent example of my own mindset when it comes to kinks. I’m a very sensual and sexual person, I have my own personal favorite list of “kinks”. But just because your particular kink wasn’t on my radar doesn’t mean I can’t get into it, or find it thrilling and sexy! An open mind is a wonderful thing to have.
So glad you were “healed,” I wonder if one of the Mistresses can help me with my Dentist aversion? LOL Similar story with you and the Dr. Where I was traumatized as a child.
I believe a lot of men have a strong desire for anal pleasure. The problem is they feel really bad about themselves enjoying it and worry they might be gay. Crazy right? If a man enjoys stimulating his anus while masturbating or using objects it has nothing to do with sexual orientation. Guys, just follow Ms. Erika advice and don’t rush anal play, simply explore it!
Thank You Mistress. I believe it to be very important for sissies to understand and appreciate that anal play is inevitable. All good sissies should be caged, plugged, and pantied, eagerly awaiting the opportunity to serve a real large cock.
Oh brett! I’m so glad you agree. You just might win that release after all! 😉
Thank You Mistress. It’s been 14 days since You allowed a release. I am willing to wait 14 more days, if it is Your desire for me to service a real, big cock for You…bigger than my tiny peanut.
Goddess Erika, Still have more of the lube but the 4th loser task was amazing. I got a feeling that is just the beginning for me. As since i don’t have sex it will happen to me. LOL.