How to have phone sex in the Mistress Erika Style is something I’ve been wanting to address for some time. As Some of you know I’ve just passed my third year anniversary here. I am still , absolutely in LOVE with what I am blessed to be doing on a daily basis. Judging from my success I think my love for my craft is felt by many!
Of course what I do isn’t for everyone, and that is Okay! That’s item one on Mistress Erika’s “Style”. To each their own, I won’t heap my kink upon you and you can live a long happy life pretending I don’t exist. It’s a big world for us to do “our own thang” Got it? Good!
So what is it “that I do?” and I know you wanna hear more about my particular Style! Read on!
Phone Sex – What Is It
Traditional or stereotypical ideals of what phone sex is the exchange of erotic thoughts and actions to elicit an orgasmic response. Some conjure up old school sex kitten moans and vibrators buzzing in the background. But in this “stereotypical” ideal of phone sex: Once you hang up you were just some dude jerking.
Sure that type of thing does happen in sessions, and some of the men I speak to want it that way. Just a sexy play partner to sort out a Hot FemDom (or other) fantasy, and move on. When they are in the mood, and have the time, they call again for the same. Period.
But in addition to those kinds of services, what I do, what LDW does is offer so much more. So if you are into “vanilla sexual interactions” We have a Mistress for that! But for many that isn’t enough. They want more: Different. Kinky. Intelligent. An experience, not just a call.
With that said, some don’t know exactly what they wanted, when they stumble upon my ear. As evidenced by a recent comment from one of my sexy playmates.
“For me it’s a need I never knew I needed”
Which Leads Us To More
The sexy playmate (and I’ll explain why I use that term in a moment) first called me the first full month of my tenure here, so a bit over three years. What a fun session he was! JOI with a sprinkle of FemDom, Cock Control. Well, I say sprinkle, he’ll probably admit he thought it was “intermediate’ at best, but now knows better! I admit he was already well trained with controlling that O, and being obedient, either self-taught ,or at the hands of my Sister Mistresses. But regardless, had a keen ability to keep that O until I said. We always had a lot of fun!
I heard from him sporadically throughout the months to come, then one day there was a Ruined Orgasm blog, I wrote. Playmate was curious and I put him through his paces. That first session he ruined the first and BEST orgasm he ever had, IMO! First, because he said some traditionally not so nice words experiencing that ruined O. His Mind was Fucked and BLOWN! I was Laughing and delighted! I assured him I wasn’t upset and I laughed with him over his slip of the tongue! I assured him that I understand it was the heat of the moment, and didn’t reflect any true feelings.
The reason for the term playmate Is he has been just that. From some fantasy/role play, guided masturbation, to True Long Distance D/s experiences,a friend, and a great support “out there”.
He has grown exponentially with his experience with true submission, and with cock control! The once “if I’m paying I’m spraying” mindset has taken a back seat and the glorious act of Denial is well understood, and dare I say craved by him now. He, like many of us are more than “just one thing” and it’s been a great honor of mine to join him with his journey!
Phone Sex Connection Exploration Growth
There are many other stories just like the above.I invite you to comment below if I’ve been a help /influential in your life! I know I can probably fill ten blogs with snippets of the people who I’ve had the pleasure of playing with and changing their lives for the better. True, the desires, or kink may be different but the growth is the same. Just know I value you all!
If you factor in the multitude of Sexy Intelligent Mistresses here at Enchantrix the number of lives we’ve touched and influenced for the better is an Amazing and Mind Blowing thing.
How To Have Phone Sex Mistress Erika Style
Now that I’ve explained the above, it’s now time to “put it all together” You’re pretty clever I think you might “already get it” but if you don’t and for those who are shouting at their internet device “where’s the meat, Erika!” (lol). Here it is guys!
Come to me knowing I love what I do, and I care about YOU! I want to know about you, your kink your hobbies your likes and dislikes. I want all and any information you can offer to help Me make your experience Fantastic!
Simple statement but oh so hard to execute!
Love what I do, and I do you!
What Kink Do You Bring Let’s Discuss
Let’s put some action to the above to further illustrate:
Information for me is a “tool” I use along with various kinds of stimuli. The more tools I have, or should I say the more “correct tools” I have, the better I can do!
You like guided masturbation but without a “Femdom” feel. It is perfectly OK to say that! I am a Mistress, a Dominant woman but I am so much more! I’m also a sensual and giving lover, and can use that M.O ( modus operandi ) just as well. If you say “I’m into Guided Masturbation” and nothing else, well then you might see and experience a different side of me, perhaps one that doesn’t “fit well” with your desires. I don’t want that and neither do you!
Maybe you are into fantasy or role play and “really are addicted” to a certain scene. Some of you are very “open” to the words and action as long as it fits into a certain kink: Cock-sucking for example. Perhaps more specifically for some: Sucking girl cock, not guy cock.
Others are very defined and particular with the play. Certain words and progression from one thing to the next needs to be precise and as you expect it. FANTASTIC, I like a guy who knows exactly what they want. I suggest sending me a script, so that I can understand , adopt and feel your desires!
Are you one interested in Humiliation. Be it mild or harsh or even degradation. If you know your likes, let me know. If you know you like humiliation but not necessarily the “industry lingo” that’s OK! Be open and honest and I’ll walk you through it. Now I know I gave some of you “great pause” and saying “well Erika this has been a HUGE *snuggle fest* until now, how in the “H-E double toothpicks” can humiliation involve “caring”. I’m glad you asked.
Humiliation and Caring
Humiliation is a tool, just like my paddle, panties, perfume, cock cage or any tangible item. Humiliation when applied appropriately elicits feelings of arousal for some.Why that is, or how that is will be left for another blog.
So when someone comes to me, with humiliation on the menu we have a nice chat about it first. Perhaps two minutes, some need more to set the scene, to discuss the humiliation at hand before we play. The type of humiliation is very important and we’ll talk about that as well. This is called negotiation and shows that I care. Fire can heal but it also can hurt, it’s the wise person who knows how to use it effectively. For if any Mistress or Dom you consider engaging with for True Dominance negates the negotiation before beginning the session, turn and walk away. THEY DO NOT CARE. Repeat: THEY DO NOT CARE ABOUT YOU. No grey area. Period. That’s how strongly I feel about it.
Humiliation can purge stress, relieve anxiety through the cocktail of hormones expressed. It can also hurt and write negatively on who you are , as a human. One reason why you should always use experienced professionals.
After our play and before the call ends, there is a good deal of after care. Just like in any traditional BDSM scene, it is a time for calm. Contemplation and assurances. Making you whole again before we depart. Praise and affirmations are always on board and you are able to share and express your thoughts and feelings freely outside of the “Dominatrix” box. It’s just YOU and Erika, now.
We part, both whole, valued sentient beings and just a bit better for our connection.
What Are Your Experiences With Caring And “Phone Sex”
I hope I’ve given you some insight on how to have phone sex Mistress Erika style. I care, you are more to me than a call. I love providing a place and a space for you to explore grow and leave this realm better for having met me.
Have you had a session with me or one of my Sister Mistresses? How have we touched your life, showed you that we care? Let’s turn this “money hungry ball busting selfish Phone Sex Operator” myth on it’s proverbial ear!
Love You
Until We Chat ????
Mistress Erika
Mistress Erika: You are in that enviable position of one being happy in their work. Each day may (will) bring new experiences that mundane routines do not offer. You are an artist…like a painter that can create a masterpiece out of a blank canvas and a pallet of oils. Or perhaps a clod of clay you fashion into a classic sculpture ala “David” (yes “my general proportion!) LOL! We bring you the raw materials and you mould a beautiful safe and nurturing escape for our desires.
When we eagerly hand ourselves over to you we know… we ARE your world. We ARE the only thing that matters, at that moment, to you.
Heaven forbid you chose another vocation. Yes you could do anything but I cannot be more thankful that I am your pet Mistress Erika.
Of course, my playful side cannot resist the vibrator sex kitten reference….You told me this morning that noise I heard was your dehumidifier, and I believe you. Thank you for being such a cultured woman not to mention the loud hum you most assuredly heard. I would be mortified to know you heard MY vibrator…considering where it was at the time!
Oh my little davey!!!!!!!! You are spot on, when we are in session nothing else matters!
As long as I have adoring pets like you, I need no other vocation.
*ROTF* you naughty SCAMP “dehumidifier”. “sculpture of David” You need to take this act to the tonight show, gherkin smuggler. ????
The Tonight Show?! Mistress Erika how sweet of you. But I haven’t a thing to wear…or do I? (Wink)
LOL you ABSOLUTELY have something SPECTACULAR to wear! I saw it you saucy sissy! Granted we’ll have to do some waxing, to get you in tip top shape! LOL 😉
Yes, with Ultra HD these we must look our best. Waxing you say….everywhere? Hmmm.
Goddess Erika, This is the reason i love talking to You so much as it is more then just a session with You and You do take the time to get to know me. It is great that you care while even doing humiliation/degradation because as You know degradation is one of my favorites. Though i do love when You show no mercy and no sympathy towards me. Mistress Erika style is awesome and i know most agree with me as it seems You are a very popular Mistress.
One type of call we need to more of in 2020 is the ignore call as bottom losers like me should get ignored a lot in life. Talk soon.
I also consider you a friend because of talking to You for almost 2 and a half years now.
hey there tiny! Absolutely you are a friend, not only the “time” factor but you are so awesome on twitter, helping spread the word of the “Great Mistress Erika” as some like to call me. I like it too! Also Goddess also brings a smile and a tingle to my nether regions so DON’T STOP!
You and I have had long conversations about humiliation, degradation and your place in the world. I get you, you get me. XOXO Looking forward to more in 2020 and my tiny looser
Since our very first call you’ve taken total control over me with feminization/orgasm control!! You are definitely going to be part of my ongoing permanent feminization training forever!!! It’s real relationship and I’ve learned so much from you!!! Love love love how you have me wrapped around your fingers/nails firmly dug into me with no intention of ever letting me go. With all of this happening I really don’t need a real girl friend as I have you and the other ldw mistresses. Only way I want a real gf is if she’s into feminization along wit my coming out to my friend (which she’s texted her gf about being involved in my fashion experience but no response yet-she said she’s open minded let her and hopefully she can set me up with her as this fashion experience will be life changing forever)
Paulina! I love love love it too! our cream puff girl forever! I can’t wait for your fashion experience, let her LEAD and don’t forget the pictures!! WOo hoo!
Good morning mistress. Great blog. As you well know I’ve had many great times with you. You have really brought a dirty old man, out of his shell. For this I am forever grateful. My time with you and the way you make me feel like I’ve said before you make me feel like the only person in the world. You are truly special to me, as a person and a mistress second. When we talk either one on one or via email I see and feel that you are my friend. I truly can’t say or thank you enough for for what you’ve given me. Words really don’t do it justice.
Oh Bob, it has been amazing knowing you! I can still remember that first session. I couldn’t tell if you were enjoying or not Ms “STOIC” so after, when it was EVIDENT TEE HEE, you were and DID enjoy it was my mission to crack that smile! #Idid #YoureAwesome! Can’t wait to the 12th!
Mistress, it is always so much fun playing with you. I’ve thoroughly enjoyed building fantasies and roleplays together. I also very much enjoy when you willingly hand me the reigns to lead you from time to time. Switching with you is such sweet bliss!
Oh ,young Samuel. You do make me giggle! The musings from your mouth are simply adorable. I see you sent an email, I must get to it soon as you’ve promised me something erotic in my box! ????
I also have a hot new fantasy/story that I want to share with you, I’m just not sure when it’ll be ready because I want to actually write it for you. So a lot of thought and some editing needs to be put into it. I just hope you’ll like the one as much as my other fantasies.
I can’t wait! WOO HOO!
Mistress Erika,
What a three year ride it has been with you!
Learning to love the taste of and eating cum.
The first time a gave BJ and a bunch of others!
An incredible affair with my hot MIL
A divorce that was best for both of us.
C&N with my Mistress E!
Gay and bi roommates.
A continue relationship with my now ex-MIL.
Introducing straight sex to my gay roommate with my ex-MIL.
My ex-MIL becomes my HOT Mature Wife!!!
Cuckold sex.
A surprise she-male experience
A threesome with my Wife and her best friend.
BBC for both of us.
My wife becomes a Q♠️ .
I worship BBC as a cuckold
Wow AND Thank you Mistress Erika!
Your Cum Slut C&N Boy Toy Tom
Tom! It has been amazing, and I’m thrilled to be a part! I look forward to more fun TO CUM in your naughty mouth! Woop!
Mistress Erika,
Thank you Gorgeous!❤️????
I do have a naughty mouth, don’t I !
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Your Cum Slut C&N Boy Toy Tom
*smiles* yes you do!
Hi Goddess Erika, You are amazing. I just wanted to post so i have a new updated name on Your blog.
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