How to have phone sex in the Mistress Erika Style is something I’ve been wanting to address for some time. As Some of you know I’ve just passed my third year anniversary here. I am still , absolutely in LOVE with what I am blessed to be doing on a daily basis. Judging from my success I think my love for my craft is felt by many!

Of course what I do isn’t for everyone, and that is Okay! That’s item one on Mistress Erika’s “Style”. To each their own, I won’t heap my kink upon you and you can live a long happy life pretending I don’t exist. It’s a big world for us to do “our own thang” Got it? Good!

So what is it “that I do?” and I know you wanna hear more about my particular Style! Read on!

Phone Sex – What Is It

Traditional or stereotypical ideals of what phone sex is the exchange of erotic thoughts and actions to elicit an orgasmic response. Some conjure up old school sex kitten moans and vibrators buzzing in the background. But in this “stereotypical” ideal of phone sex: Once you hang up you were just some dude jerking.

Sure that type of thing does happen in sessions, and some of the men I speak to want it that way. Just a sexy play partner to sort out a Hot FemDom (or other) fantasy, and move on.  When they are in the mood, and have the time, they call again for the same. Period.

But in addition to those kinds of services,  what I do, what LDW does is offer so much more. So if you are into “vanilla sexual interactions” We have a Mistress for that! But for many that isn’t enough. They want more: Different. Kinky. Intelligent. An experience, not just a call.

With that said, some don’t know exactly what they wanted, when they stumble upon my ear. As evidenced by a recent comment from one of my sexy playmates.

“For me it’s a need I never knew I needed”

Which Leads Us To More

The sexy playmate (and I’ll explain why I use that term in a moment) first called me the first full month of my tenure here, so a bit over three years. What a fun session he was! JOI with a sprinkle of FemDom, Cock Control. Well, I say sprinkle, he’ll probably admit he thought it was  “intermediate’ at best, but now knows better!  I admit he was already well trained with controlling that O, and being obedient, either  self-taught ,or at the hands of my Sister Mistresses. But regardless, had a keen ability to keep that O until I said. We always had a lot of fun!

I heard from him sporadically throughout the months to come, then one day there was a Ruined Orgasm blog, I wrote. Playmate was curious and I put him through his paces. That first session he ruined the first and BEST orgasm he ever had, IMO! First, because he said some traditionally not so nice words experiencing that ruined O. His Mind was Fucked and BLOWN! I was Laughing and delighted! I assured him I wasn’t upset and I laughed with him over his slip of the tongue! I assured him that I understand it was the heat of the moment, and didn’t reflect any true feelings.

The reason for the term playmate Is he has been just that. From some fantasy/role play, guided masturbation, to True Long Distance D/s experiences,a friend, and a great support “out there”.

He has grown exponentially with his experience with true submission, and with cock control! The once “if I’m paying I’m spraying” mindset has taken a back seat and the glorious act of Denial is well understood, and dare I say craved by him now. He, like many of us are more than “just one thing” and it’s been a great honor of mine to join him with his journey!

Phone Sex Connection Exploration Growth

There are many other stories just like the above.I invite you to comment below if I’ve been a help /influential in your life! I know I can probably fill ten blogs with snippets of the people who I’ve had the pleasure of playing with and changing their lives for the better. True, the desires, or kink may be different but the growth is the same. Just know I value you all!

If you factor in the multitude of Sexy Intelligent Mistresses here at Enchantrix the number of lives we’ve touched and influenced for the better is an Amazing and Mind Blowing thing.

How To Have Phone Sex Mistress Erika Style

Now that I’ve explained the above, it’s now time to “put it all together” You’re pretty clever I think you might “already get it” but if you don’t and for those who are shouting at their internet device “where’s the meat, Erika!” (lol). Here it is guys!

Come to me knowing I love what I do, and I care about YOU! I want to know about you, your kink your hobbies your likes and dislikes. I want all and any information you can offer to help Me make your experience Fantastic!

Simple statement but oh so hard to execute!

Phone Sex

Love what I do, and I do you!

What Kink Do You Bring Let’s Discuss

Let’s put some action to the above to further illustrate:

Information for me is a “tool” I use along with various kinds of stimuli. The more tools I have, or should I say the more “correct tools” I have, the better I can do!

You like guided masturbation but without a “Femdom” feel. It is perfectly OK to say that! I am a Mistress, a Dominant woman but I am so much more! I’m also a sensual and giving lover, and can use that M.O ( modus operandi ) just as well. If you say “I’m into Guided Masturbation” and nothing else, well then you might see and experience a different side of me, perhaps one that doesn’t “fit well” with your desires. I don’t want that and neither do you!

Maybe  you are into fantasy or role play and “really are addicted” to a certain scene. Some of you are very “open” to the words and action as long as it fits into a certain kink: Cock-sucking for example. Perhaps more specifically for some: Sucking girl cock, not guy cock.

Others are very defined and particular with the play. Certain words and progression from one thing to the next needs to be precise and as you expect it. FANTASTIC, I like a guy who knows exactly what they want. I suggest sending me a script, so that I can understand , adopt and feel your desires!
Are you one interested in Humiliation. Be it mild or harsh or even degradation. If you know your likes, let me know. If you know you like humiliation but not necessarily the “industry lingo” that’s OK! Be open and honest and I’ll walk you through it. Now I know I gave some of you “great pause” and saying “well Erika this has been a HUGE *snuggle fest* until now, how in the “H-E double toothpicks” can humiliation involve “caring”. I’m glad you asked.

Humiliation and Caring

Humiliation is a tool, just like my paddle, panties, perfume, cock cage or any tangible item. Humiliation when applied appropriately elicits feelings of arousal for some.Why that is, or how that is will be left for another blog.

So when someone comes to me, with humiliation on the menu we have a nice chat about it first. Perhaps two minutes, some need more to set the scene, to discuss the humiliation at hand before we play. The type of humiliation is very important and we’ll talk about that as well. This is called negotiation and shows that I care. Fire can heal but it also can hurt, it’s the wise person who knows how to use it effectively. For if any Mistress or Dom you consider engaging with for True Dominance  negates the negotiation before beginning the session, turn and walk away. THEY DO NOT CARE. Repeat: THEY DO NOT CARE ABOUT YOU. No grey area. Period. That’s how strongly I feel about it.

Humiliation can purge stress, relieve anxiety through the cocktail of hormones expressed. It can also hurt and write negatively on who you are , as a human. One reason why you should always use experienced professionals.

After our play and before the call ends, there is a good deal of after care. Just like in any traditional BDSM scene, it is a time for calm. Contemplation and assurances. Making you whole again before we depart. Praise and affirmations are always on board and you are able to share and express your thoughts and feelings freely outside of the “Dominatrix” box. It’s just YOU and Erika, now.

We part, both whole, valued sentient beings and just a bit better for our connection.

What Are Your Experiences With Caring And “Phone Sex”

I hope I’ve given you some insight on how to have phone sex Mistress Erika style. I care, you are more to me than a call. I love providing a place and a space for you to explore grow and leave this realm better for having met me.

Have you had a session with me or one of my Sister Mistresses? How have we touched your life, showed you that we care? Let’s turn this “money hungry ball busting selfish Phone Sex Operator” myth on it’s proverbial ear!

Love You

Until We Chat 💋

Mistress Erika