Tips on pleasing a Dominant Mistress is something I discuss with men routinely. So here I am with some great tips to make you feel more submissive, less of a “topper from the bottomer” as many of you indicate you fear you do. Why negotiation with your Mistress is important and various “styles” of submission and how your style can please a Dominant Mistress.
Know Your Submissive Style
The first step you take when offering your gift of submission to a Dominant Woman is to know yourself! What style of submission appeals to you most? Some, don’t always feel submissive ,or have the desire to submit. But when it comes to kinky sexy play your mind and body desire to be owned. Therefore, a Mistress you would “connect with” isn’t necessarily looking for a 24/7 submissive male. Alpha on the streets, sub in the sheets kinda thing.
If you are a submissive and pleasing a Dominant Woman 24/7 following her lead in all aspects of your life, just not with kinky sexy play then the Dominant Woman you would best connect with is one who enjoys and wants to do just that.
Know Your Kinky Likes And Dislikes
Some of you know what you like and don’t like. Some of you have no idea. Be upfront with what turns you on, now. My bet is once you start hanging around a Mistress those desires will evolve. Communicate before you session and provide some information, about your submissive limits and boundaries. Pleasing a Dominant Mistress isn’t as difficult as you may imagine. I just need to know you, and something about you.
Some of the things every Mistress would like to know is your experie
Pleasing Mistress
nce level. Do you have toys, are you able to get toys if it pleases her. But the most important thing for me to know is: What do you hope to get out of it. What does a session with me “look like”. Communicate with me about what is off the table. Some are not ready for anal play, and that’s ok. The D/s negotiation will help me know what kinky tools I have at my disposal when I take control. You can relax, trust, and submit knowing I won’t spring something on you. You are not topping from the bottom with your negotiations. If we are in session and you interject and want to add something or change how I am leading the session, now that’s topping from the bottom.
Pleasing A Dominant Mistress
Showing your appreciation through word or deed is always pleasing. I have many fans who like to engage with me on Twitter or at Enchantrix Empire and one way you can please me is by tweeting out my stuff! We also have a sexy rate my call option where you can leave your honest review, of our session.
You know I put a lot of effort into my sessions and I love what I do. So whether we are having extended edging sessions, sensation play, or quick ten minute fantasy call I can only be the best I can be, with your help. I want you to have a great experience. Do I want you to enjoy each and every kink I talk about, or engage in, with you? Certainly not. I enjoy our connection, it’s personal and specific to you. So don’t be shy to show your genuine self, as this is a judgement free zone. It also pleases me that you put your trust in me.
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Mistress Erika
Goddess Erika, Good post. the one thing that i hope i never do is be a topper from the bottomer. That is my greatest fear.
Hey tftt, thank you. Aww tiny loser, I think that would be a delightful call. Where you try to call the shots and I just steamroll right over you haha 😉 you are very respectful T, one of the things I appreciate about you. It pleases me
It’s about being a soft helpless submissive weak and feminine cream puff girl. This is who I am and become as it’s needed and best for me. I love how all of you have feminized me by lipstick kissing my cheeks and keeping me dressed up as your cream puff girl. Seeing how I look dressed up I really do look better this way then I do as a guy. As far as coming out to my friends this will happen when time is right. I’m not going to worry or care what others think anymore. Dressing in women’s clothes is harmless fun. It’s not illegal as I could be doing way worse things like drugs/getting drunk/pulled over. As you said if the girls I play tennis with are my true friends then they should be accepting of this and by being honest/upfront about wearing women’s clothes I hope they would take interest and see different side of me. If they don’t then it’s their loss.
what a great perspective Paulina! It’s true 2019 is your year, cream puff girl!
It’s time Ms Erika-as I said I’m not going to worry or care what others think anymore. By coming out this way it’s honest and upfront. If girls that I’m friends are true friends they will accept this if not their loss. I’m planning on wearing/buying more women’s clothes and this is the relationship I want to have with women. Definitely in 2020 I’m going to step this up with calling all of you. the girl who’s my age (I’ve stopped hanging out with her,still friends with her but that’s as far as it goes) isn’t intl feminization as she’s to much a mother hen and I have enough of that with my family. The next tennis weekly birthday party we gave I’ll leave early and if she asks I’ll tell her I have to call my mistress. She got me fat with these parties eating/drinking late night/right before bed and that’s disaster in staying lean/losing weight. F—k that!!! No one wants to see a fat cream puff girl in body con dress. It’s time to start low/no carb diet so I can fit into my dresses/yoga pants/leggings. I’m going to also tell my friend that I want to have her give me feminine arched eyebrows though she said family would notice. Which I don’t think they/nor co workers would. Bottom line I want my friend who took pictures of me with her phone to take over my feminization. This is what’s right and best especially when she asked if I dressed up as a girl for therapeutic reasons.
Thankyou MISTRESS yes topping from the bottom i am afraid of and never want to do .This blog is great sincerly beta bottom bitch tedi
Thank you pet ????
Mistress Erika,
It was great to catch you up on the latest adventure of this submissive “boy toy” ! I think you are correct some C or V will help me make it through the next two weeks… UP to their expectations.
BTW…you are gorgeous!!
Your C&N Cum Slut Boy and now “Boy Toy” Tom
Hey boy toy! It was so HOT to get caught up on your delicious goings on! I just can’t wait until the next update!
Thank for the tips Mistress….i do strive to be the best submissive i can be so guidance is very important in working to better myself
The more i give myself over to what s Mistress wants to do, the more satisfying it is Mistress Erika.
joe, that’s correct. But Every Mistress Needs To Know Your Boundaries, first. YOU happen to be WIDE OPEN when it comes to boundaries, something I need to know. You can “take a lot” Compared to most
You are correct Mistress Erika. It is a bit for a dance. The Mistresses i have interacted with over the years, whether in person or through phone/online, have taken the lead with my providing the necessary information. Also, it is a matter of responding honestly to the dynamic, which allows the Mistress to read the signs. You, for one, read it beautifully.
i hope to “kneel before You” soon. In fact, i think i will kneel on the cold, hard basement floor as You interrogate me to find out more about me—perhaps You will question me in a way that i would reveal both the fantasies and realities of my submissiveness.
Mmmmmmmmmmm joe, that would be delightful.
Thank you for your kind words, you serve me well.
Great post Mistress Erika. Knowing where to start, because of sharing experiences and fantasies is perfect. And from there, allowing a Mistress to explore, push, and offer tastes is a great way to develop that connection.
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WS! Thanks for stopping by. Wise words, as always. How is your bum? ????
I love when a caller fills me in on his tastes – as I have to remind some of the more reticent ones, my name may be Claire but I am not clairvoyant! So yes, the first step towards making your mistress happy is to be forthcoming about your hot buttons. We will press them and maybe even find some new ones 🙂
Hey thanks for stopping by Sexy Claire!
There is a lot to cover on the subject of pleasing a Dominant Mistress, and this is a good start! I feel more blogs coming on!
Oh and don’t I know you are excellent at pushing those buttons! Mmmm! Delish!
See you around the Empire!