Do you know that Mistress loves to ruin your orgasm? Hello , my naughty pets, fans and lookie loo’s! Today I am featuring some of my blogs and various musings about the subject of ruined orgasms. . Perhaps somewhere in this post one might find out WHY Mistress loves to ruin your orgasm. I’d love to discuss your thoughts, leave a comment below or you are always welcome to whisper them into my ear.
New Level Ruined Orgasm
When I search ruined orgasm on my blog I think this is my first post about Ruined Orgasm ! But feel free to search , take a look around and prove me wrong! In this post I talk about why someone might be interested with playing with ruined orgasms. I also include some ways ramp up the naughty play with adding edging and chastity! Here’s a little snippet, click on Ruined Orgasm (above) to read the post!
Now, combine repeated edging and ruined orgasm , dribble in a few days of chastity for the chronic stroker. When you combine it with a ruined orgasm you are going to have a wonderfully entertaining, horny pet still wanting to go again! Keeping you horny is my goal, so I think incorporating a ruined orgasm should play a more prominent role in your cock control training going forward! Don’t you?
Ruined Orgasm -Where’s the Power
With my post about the power of ruined orgasms, I recognize the effort it takes to ruin an orgasm. Perhaps that’s why your ruined orgasms, please me so much. The effort. Mmm…What’s not to tingle about here, my naughties.
Any man who has accomplished a SELF ruined orgasm will attest to the struggle it was to move that hand off of his penis, to stop that stimulation.
Any man who has had the pleasure of playing with me , and with ruined orgasms knows how powerful the scene is. You transferring that power to me during the scene. Submitting your mind to my voice, my instructions ,training you to focus. Focus on me. Focus on my voice. Becoming one in a time and space that only exists for us, at that time ,in that space. That’s power.
When you ultimately ruin that orgasm, then savor those thoughts, memories and you remain focused and interested ,and wanting to please me far beyond the session.
Ruined Orgasm Gift
I’ve often reminded you that I consider your submission your gift to me. That includes all of the naughty things you do, and who you become, for me. So with Ruined Orgasm- Why Mistress why I give you another teasing tidbit about my thoughts and feelings about ruined orgasms.
In many ways ruined orgasms are a gift. A show of your obedience, My control. Expression of your submissiveness. Like many things we do together. It only proves to explore and create a unique connection , an intimate connection. I want you to come to me. Submit your mind and your body to me. Kneeling, you greet me: Mistress may I ruin an orgasm for your pleasure today?
Mistress Loves To Ruin Your Orgasm
I think by now you are getting a great peek into why Mistress Loves to Ruin Your Orgasm, and with this post Cock Control And Ruined Orgasm I give
you several reasons and several ways you can ruin that orgasm for me.
After review of that throw back post, I realized I’ve made a horrible oversite! Chastity ruined orgasm! One of the Erika Addicts mentioned it in the comments.
Ruining your orgasm in that cage is a particularly delightful way to tease, control and give you a seat at the Erika Addict’s club. Summed up: it’s f*king hot! 🔥
The post also includes one of my favorite things to do during my fundays around the Empire.polling you! I think it is a great way to get your unfiltered views as I have no idea how you voted! Preparing for this post I asked Twitter and the sexy people over at Enchantrix Empire about their experience with Ruined Orgasms. Surprisingly enough the results are very similar. Let’s take a look.
Ruined Orgasm Polls
42% of Twitter respondents have had a ruined orgasm on purpose! Compared to 53% of EE folk.
What I love is that 25.5% of twitter and 15% of EE participants BEG for ruined orgams!
But, isn’t it sad that, a small percentage on e
ach poll don’t know how to ruin!?
I bet they know “how” it’s just really difficult (I was going to say hard, but that was a too easy pun!) to do!
One reason why you benefit from ruined orgasm training!
Have you ever had a ruined orgasm? Where do you measure up against the respondents?
So You Tell Me- Why Does Mistress Love To Ruin Your Orgasm
Just like in session, I tease you with little tidbits. Now it’s up to you to read the posts I mention, and put those tidbits together and answer the question: Why do you think Mistress Loves To Ruin Your Orgasm?
Until We Chat 💋
Your Intelligent Phone Fantasy Mistress Erika
An easy answer is that Mistress enjoys the control, and particulalry loves control when it is difficult and freely given to her. Mistress could also enjoy ruining an orgasm because it leaves her sub wanting. Wanting more stimulation, wanting more of Mistress, and wanting keeping the subs attention. Mistress also sometimes enjoys a tease and humbling a sub. A ruined orgasm allows Mistress to make many choices such as treating the ruined orgasm as an infraction, or “enough” for the sub.
While all of those are possible, and likely some of the reasons Mistress enjoys ruined orgasms, I think there is at least one more. Mistress, deep down, enjoys giving a sub exaclty what they want, whether they admit it or not. If a sub wants to make Mistress happy, give her what she wants or amuses her and that something is a ruined orgasm, then Mistress will give the sub the opportunity to please Mistress.
How deep does that rabbit hole go? I haven’t found the bottom yet, but I have ruined orgasms both on purpose and by accident. It’s a tough call on which Mistress enjoyed more, but I’m happy she took pleasure in both kinds in different ways.
Well said Wellspanked! You get four starts today! ⭐⭐⭐⭐
No Wonder you are so much fun!
Mistress Erika, I’ve repeated myself, no doubt, (allow me my seniors moment?🤭) about my enthusiasm and amazement at my new parlour trick obsession…The Ruined Orgasm”
For the life of me, if I had come up with this…hmm, rephrase…”discovered this “hidden talent” (let’s cut to the chase here. There is nothing “talented” about what I have “hidden”) the last moniker I would have hung on it is “Ruined Orgasm”
It is a marvel of nature and I find them absolutely mesmerizing.
This is virgin territory here. After years of yanking it is a refreshing twist…kinda like the ad where the guy takes his hands off the steering wheel and the car parallel parks itself!
Thanks to your ownership of “the little peanut” I follow your guidance Mistress Erika. You KNOW how I adore you and eagerly tackle each task with zeal! Disappointing Mistress? Not on your life.
If you’re asking me why Mistress likes to ruin my orgasm, it’s so difficult to answer. I don’t consider it “ruined” and fulfill my obligations to earn the right.
Perhaps to others, only being allowed “ruined orgasms” while caged, may seem like punishment…(totally understandable.) Believe me I relish it and perhaps that alone amuses Mistress enough to the point she looks forward to it as well.
When I report on my latest jiggle and dribble and you tell me I’ve made you proud, I glow for days!
That tells me right there, that in our dynamic, there IS no “Ruined Orgasm”. It is a misnomer.
Thank you Mistress Erika❤️
Why My Little packing peanut!
Amused, as always over your words. As WS mentioned above and you here, it is pleasure for submissive to know they made their Mistress proud, and obeying. 😘
I ruined my own orgasm for the first time last week.
I was obeying my Headmistress Erika’s instructions.
She wasn’t interested in sharing it with me because, after all, how interesting can a beta’s orgasm be?
We subbies pay for phone sessions because we’re just not interesting to sexually aware women. Unless, one looks at it the way a biologist might look at lab rats.
I think that’s the way our Mistresses regard us. And I mean that in a positive way.
Well, as positive as it can be.
Do any of my fellow betas think that the Mistresses of LDW don’t compare notes on us and laugh their asses off at how easily we can be led around by our lust?
I’ll bet that hits home with all of us, even if some are in denial of the reality that we are nothing more than a combination of amusement and income.
We’ll never meet our Mistresses, let alone engage in a real relationship with any of them.
And that’s why the ruined orgasm is so apropos.
“She’s there but she’s not really there. Ever. Aw, poor little subbie. But look who keeps crawling back.”
I sobered up from my state of sexual euphoria through the course of my unsatisfyingly incomplete ruined orgasm, telling myself that I won’t be doing that again.
And now I can feel Headmistress Erika’s knowing smirk and hear her saying, “What’s that you were saying the other day? Did you want to discuss something, little man? No, I didn’t think you did. I have better things to do than to listen to you whine. Kiss my ass.”
Time to ruin an orgasm…
Tee Hee Pee Wee……. ha! that’s very alliterate, I think it’s my new earworm today, tee hee pee wee giggling over her wee willy.
You are absolutely right!
Although munchkin, discretion is our number one priority for most of our callers. However, a humiliated whore like you who revels in exposure humiliation it’s GAME ON! You know I’ve shared much more than notes with the other ladies here, trotting you past them like a whore on a chain.
Get your red hot honey spot ladies, perfect for your strap on, get your red hot honey spot right here ladies. TWO HOLES NO waiting.
Yes, my sweet suck up, scared of women prissy pants, you keep saying “not again” and yet, here you are. Cocksucker.
kiss my ass pee wee …..l and when I say kiss I mean: 👅💦🍆
Good post Goddess Erika. 🧎♂️🧎♂️🧎♂️ I would guess that you love to ruin orgasms because it puts you in control more then anything else. I don’t think i am capable of doing ruined orgasm calls because i would think a male would have to last. Which is something i can’t do as i am a second man.
I respect guys that can do it.
Thank you. You are right RO does put me in control. humm RO in your spiked cage, that is aligned with your purpose and place. But probably too painful #GoodForYou😘
I am giddy thinking of creative ways to ruin my orgasm for you, but the most climatic has got to be that you could turn whatever I cum up with upside down…
LOL Hello Not so zen! Well it seems you were very creative this morning 3 RO with clean up! LOL Looking forward to your next and report!
Just did 3 ruined orgasms with Ms Erika, and being the lovely goddess she is, she allowed me to hump off a real orgasm right now to her blog while sucking clean my ruined undies…as a surprise gift I have ruined even this as well!
LOL You are welcome! *pats head* what a good pet!
I love this ,really miss you and everything you did.
Erika is the best, there is no other.
Why look at this lovely naughty who happened by to say hi! Hello “R” it’s been a while. I’m glad to know I’m still on your mind, have you been a good slut for me?
I honestly wish , that back when I was permitted to orgasm during calls… (on occasion) that EVERY single one had been ruined! I am nonetheless thankful that all of my Final few pathetic squirts/dribbles allowed by Mistress, before permanent chastity that is…..were all hands free ruined ones
Hi Prissy, thanks for stopping by! Your life of denial is one HUGE RUINED orgasm, from the gate, it’s not even allowed out of the GATE ! Tee hee
Is a sissygasm ruined when the pegging stops while in chastity? I hope not because this is the only way an orgasm could be ruined for me under the circumstances of my short comings
Spontaneous orgasms for me are the best of all ones that just happen and your not trying for or doing anything . One time I was at a semi nude beach and a man walked by nude with a really nice dick and a had an orgasm just from the visual of seeing him
You’re right , the only way!
If you read this post from the very start, you had me at Hello… ( I didn’t even need to read any further)
Yep, I’m gonna want you to do this to me at some point. Gotta keep adding to the list! Am I right Mistress Erika?